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NYE/NYD hugs thread

Former MemberFormer Member Lyrical PosterPosts: 5,462 Part of The Furniture
in The subforum of Christmas Past




Hey everyone, :heart:

So.... I know I am totally early on this thread, but I thought it would be nice to have a thread where we can get support on new years eve, and new years day. I know this year may be difficult and I know how kind you all can be too each other.

Your not alone if your struggling, and we all care about each other.

:heart:


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  • SienaSiena Posts: 15,681 Skive's The Limit
    Defiantly not too early I feel stressed when people are saying happy new year when they say happy Christmas too. And exactly two weeks left of this year and I’ve done fuck all with my year. Sad:(
    “And when they look at you, they won't see everything you've been through. They won't see the **** that turned to scars that began to fade with time. They won't see the heartbreaking things that shook up and changed your entire world. They won't know how many tears you cried or even what it was you were crying about. They won't see how strong you had to be because you had no other choice. What they will see though is how compassionate you are because you experienced pain. What they will see is how kind you are because you experienced how cruel the world is. What they will see is how good you are because you've seen how bad things or people can be. The difference between you and your experiences are who you choose to be, despite everything that could have turned you cold and unkind.You are the good the world needs and the best of us.” ~ Kirsten Corley
  • Former MemberFormer Member Lyrical Poster Posts: 5,462 Part of The Furniture
    Shaunie said:
    Defiantly not too early I feel stressed when people are saying happy new year when they say happy Christmas too. And exactly two weeks left of this year and I’ve done fuck all with my year. Sad:(
    I understand, I think there is such a pressure to be 'happy' but in reality it's not like that, your not alone though, we care about you. I think it's important to remember that you can get through this, and you can be okay, how about making some small goals for 2019, not resolutions as such, but goals for you not for anyone else, like I know for me, I want to start running again, I did the couch to 5k, but had a injury so had to stop it, I got to like week 5 or 6 though, which was a huge achievement for me, 

    Just an idea,

    We are here for you :heart:  
  • Former MemberFormer Member Lyrical Poster Posts: 5,462 Part of The Furniture
    Aidan said:
    Thank you @*BananaMonkey* this is such a lovely idea <3

    The social and economic aspects of this time of year stress me out- I don't like spending too much time with people especially when I'm at someone else's place. I don't work often, it's stressful and dull and too physically demanding on my body, but I have gotten great at saving my money and making it go further... which lasts until about Christmas, because Christmas.

    I don't really make new years' resolutions anymore because it saves me any disappointment. Not much is more demoralising than being given a fresh start and a time scale as big as a entire year, and still not being able to get where you want. 

    That's not to say I don't achieve anything in a year! This year I got my diagnosis of depression lifted, started at my first job and made strides towards achieving a safe weight- but I don't know what resolution I would've made last year, and if I would've achieved it this year. Situations change, and that to me is why it's important to be an adaptable person with adaptable goals, and to not rigidly stick to one premise for an entire year til you make a new one the next year.

    People look at new years like they're fresh starts. It's a little kick up the arse of motivation. 

    But every new month can be a fresh start. Every new day, every new hour, every new minute can be a fresh start. Time doesn't clean a slate blank. Every new year, your past isn't erased. You're not offered a new future. Nothing that's already happened changes.

    But, you learn from mistakes. You learn to accept yourself, and to cope by changing and developing- not by punishing yourself for something in the past you cannot change. 

    A new year isn't particularly special. You can set your mind to anything at any time, and that to me is so precious.

    Hugs to anyone who wants one <3

    Sorry if maybe this was a little too deep :joy:
    I agree, especially with the part where you said about not setting new years resolutions, I feel the same. I don't set them, I guess for me I have my goals, that is enough for me. 

    Hope your okay :heart:


  • JellyelephantJellyelephant Posts: 1,908 Extreme Poster
    I hate new years with a passion........ like it just reminds me of another year ive spent being mentally ill and ruining my own life. Another year of wanting to die and destroying myself every way I can..... and the though of another whole new year which i know is going to be a struggle just makes me want to die. Terrible. 
    The sun will rise and we will try again 
  • Former MemberFormer Member Lyrical Poster Posts: 5,462 Part of The Furniture
    Jellyelephant said:
    I hate new years with a passion........ like it just reminds me of another year ive spent being mentally ill and ruining my own life. Another year of wanting to die and destroying myself every way I can..... and the though of another whole new year which i know is going to be a struggle just makes me want to die. Terrible. 
    Sending hugs, :heart:

    Feel free to use this thread to talk about things or you could always make a thread in health and well-being if you need too. We are here for you :heart: 
  • SienaSiena Posts: 15,681 Skive's The Limit
    My sisters friend asked if I want to go out with them on new year. I know that’s nice. But can’t help feel like they feel sorry for me and id feel like a tag along anyway. Although I do know her and my sister is same age cause twins and her friends are same age and know them. Would just be weird. I’ll just be alone as have no friends of my own
    “And when they look at you, they won't see everything you've been through. They won't see the **** that turned to scars that began to fade with time. They won't see the heartbreaking things that shook up and changed your entire world. They won't know how many tears you cried or even what it was you were crying about. They won't see how strong you had to be because you had no other choice. What they will see though is how compassionate you are because you experienced pain. What they will see is how kind you are because you experienced how cruel the world is. What they will see is how good you are because you've seen how bad things or people can be. The difference between you and your experiences are who you choose to be, despite everything that could have turned you cold and unkind.You are the good the world needs and the best of us.” ~ Kirsten Corley
  • Former MemberFormer Member Lyrical Poster Posts: 5,462 Part of The Furniture
    @Shaunie

    Sending hugs :heart:
  • SienaSiena Posts: 15,681 Skive's The Limit
    edited December 2018
    Omg well if you ask me New Year’s Day is the most depressing day of the year. Even an occuptional therapist said that exactly to even without me saying how much I hate it or speaking about it. Said it cause I see her on the 31st & she said she hates it too which made me feel less alone 🙃
    “And when they look at you, they won't see everything you've been through. They won't see the **** that turned to scars that began to fade with time. They won't see the heartbreaking things that shook up and changed your entire world. They won't know how many tears you cried or even what it was you were crying about. They won't see how strong you had to be because you had no other choice. What they will see though is how compassionate you are because you experienced pain. What they will see is how kind you are because you experienced how cruel the world is. What they will see is how good you are because you've seen how bad things or people can be. The difference between you and your experiences are who you choose to be, despite everything that could have turned you cold and unkind.You are the good the world needs and the best of us.” ~ Kirsten Corley
  • Former MemberFormer Member Fruit loop Deactivated Posts: 2,762 Boards Guru
    It's positive that it makes you feel less alone Shaunie.

    The new year is a hard one for everyone but remember we're looking here to get through it and we'll always listen :) xo
  • Former MemberFormer Member Lyrical Poster Posts: 5,462 Part of The Furniture
    hey folks, 

    just checking in to see how your all doing. I think it's important to remember that the 1st of January is just another day, no pressure, try to remember that :heart:


  • Former MemberFormer Member Fruit loop Deactivated Posts: 2,762 Boards Guru
    Not bad Banana but I guess this year has been pretty good I'm scared to leave it?  Also the new year marks the week that I get the coach home which isn't fun lol I'm staying strong though :) xo
  • SienaSiena Posts: 15,681 Skive's The Limit
    Sad that the only things I get invited to for NYE is things I’d feel like a tag along to. Na think I’ll just sit at home by myself  using Kopperberg as a mixer with vodka loll
    “And when they look at you, they won't see everything you've been through. They won't see the **** that turned to scars that began to fade with time. They won't see the heartbreaking things that shook up and changed your entire world. They won't know how many tears you cried or even what it was you were crying about. They won't see how strong you had to be because you had no other choice. What they will see though is how compassionate you are because you experienced pain. What they will see is how kind you are because you experienced how cruel the world is. What they will see is how good you are because you've seen how bad things or people can be. The difference between you and your experiences are who you choose to be, despite everything that could have turned you cold and unkind.You are the good the world needs and the best of us.” ~ Kirsten Corley
  • JellyelephantJellyelephant Posts: 1,908 Extreme Poster
    I hate NYE so much im so distressed just gonna drink vodka all day until it knocks me unconscious hoepfully 
    The sun will rise and we will try again 
  • Former MemberFormer Member Fruit loop Deactivated Posts: 2,762 Boards Guru
    Sending hugs everyone!  ❤
  • Former MemberFormer Member Lyrical Poster Posts: 5,462 Part of The Furniture
    Sorry I've not really been supporting on this thread, I've been at work for the past three days, 12hour days. I hope everyone is okay, please try and remember that we are here for each other, you are all so supportive with each other it's lovely to see :heart:


  • SienaSiena Posts: 15,681 Skive's The Limit
    Need to avoid social media. My life is so shit compared to everyone’s 😭😭😭😭😭😭
    “And when they look at you, they won't see everything you've been through. They won't see the **** that turned to scars that began to fade with time. They won't see the heartbreaking things that shook up and changed your entire world. They won't know how many tears you cried or even what it was you were crying about. They won't see how strong you had to be because you had no other choice. What they will see though is how compassionate you are because you experienced pain. What they will see is how kind you are because you experienced how cruel the world is. What they will see is how good you are because you've seen how bad things or people can be. The difference between you and your experiences are who you choose to be, despite everything that could have turned you cold and unkind.You are the good the world needs and the best of us.” ~ Kirsten Corley
  • Millie2787Millie2787 Community Champion Posts: 5,194 Part of The Furniture
    Not looking forward to tonight - fireworks and more fireworks and my brain don’t like those 😂
    Sometimes all you need is one person to believe in you , for you to begin to believe in yourself.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Lyrical Poster Posts: 5,462 Part of The Furniture
    Shaunie said:
    Need to avoid social media. My life is so shit compared to everyone’s 😭😭😭😭😭😭
    Try not to compare. I know it's easier said than done though. :heart:
  • Former MemberFormer Member Lyrical Poster Posts: 5,462 Part of The Furniture
    Millie2787 said:
    Not looking forward to tonight - fireworks and more fireworks and my brain don’t like those 😂
    Sending hugs .:heart: 
  • Former MemberFormer Member Fruit loop Deactivated Posts: 2,762 Boards Guru
    Yeah sending hugs to you both ❤ feeling icky and battling Anxiety but I'll be alright xo
  • Former MemberFormer Member Lyrical Poster Posts: 5,462 Part of The Furniture
    Laine said:
    Yeah sending hugs to you both ❤ feeling icky and battling Anxiety but I'll be alright xo
    Hope your okay :heart: 
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 86 Budding Regular
    I always get a bit weepy on NYE even if I liked the year. I'm always anxious about the things that I keep stored at the back of mind coming out in full force.

    Hugs all round <3
  • JellyelephantJellyelephant Posts: 1,908 Extreme Poster
    cant wait for this shit to be over am v drunk lol
    The sun will rise and we will try again 
  • SienaSiena Posts: 15,681 Skive's The Limit
    January is so depressing
    “And when they look at you, they won't see everything you've been through. They won't see the **** that turned to scars that began to fade with time. They won't see the heartbreaking things that shook up and changed your entire world. They won't know how many tears you cried or even what it was you were crying about. They won't see how strong you had to be because you had no other choice. What they will see though is how compassionate you are because you experienced pain. What they will see is how kind you are because you experienced how cruel the world is. What they will see is how good you are because you've seen how bad things or people can be. The difference between you and your experiences are who you choose to be, despite everything that could have turned you cold and unkind.You are the good the world needs and the best of us.” ~ Kirsten Corley
  • Former MemberFormer Member Lyrical Poster Posts: 5,462 Part of The Furniture
    Shaunie said:
    January is so depressing
    Sending hugs, do you want to chat about anything? 
  • SienaSiena Posts: 15,681 Skive's The Limit
    I have no money lol
    “And when they look at you, they won't see everything you've been through. They won't see the **** that turned to scars that began to fade with time. They won't see the heartbreaking things that shook up and changed your entire world. They won't know how many tears you cried or even what it was you were crying about. They won't see how strong you had to be because you had no other choice. What they will see though is how compassionate you are because you experienced pain. What they will see is how kind you are because you experienced how cruel the world is. What they will see is how good you are because you've seen how bad things or people can be. The difference between you and your experiences are who you choose to be, despite everything that could have turned you cold and unkind.You are the good the world needs and the best of us.” ~ Kirsten Corley
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 3,590 Community Veteran
    tell me about it lol, we got paid a week early in December so January is always a looooooong month :sweat:
  • SienaSiena Posts: 15,681 Skive's The Limit
    edited January 2019
    Am too overwhelmed. My family are so stressful in January & start of New Year and think I can change my life like right now. And speak so much about the year ahead. Too much pressure. 
    “And when they look at you, they won't see everything you've been through. They won't see the **** that turned to scars that began to fade with time. They won't see the heartbreaking things that shook up and changed your entire world. They won't know how many tears you cried or even what it was you were crying about. They won't see how strong you had to be because you had no other choice. What they will see though is how compassionate you are because you experienced pain. What they will see is how kind you are because you experienced how cruel the world is. What they will see is how good you are because you've seen how bad things or people can be. The difference between you and your experiences are who you choose to be, despite everything that could have turned you cold and unkind.You are the good the world needs and the best of us.” ~ Kirsten Corley
  • Former MemberFormer Member Fruit loop Deactivated Posts: 2,762 Boards Guru
    Sending hugs Folk❤
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