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Christmas hugs thread.

Former MemberFormer Member Lyrical PosterPosts: 5,462 Part of The Furniture


Hey Everyone :wave:

As Christmas is fast approaching, we know that for some people Christmas may be a difficult time, so we wanted to start this thread so that people can post for support or even just a *hug* and that as a whole community we can be there for each other. This is your space.

We want you guys to have support over the festive period, and know that you're not alone.

TheSite is a safe and confidential space for you. :heart:

There are people who care and want you to feel safe and supported :thumb:
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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,875,648 The Mix Honorary Guru
    People care about you too miss, so make sure you use this thread too as and when you need :yes:
  • Former MemberFormer Member Lyrical Poster Posts: 5,462 Part of The Furniture
    People care about you too miss, so make sure you use this thread too as and when you need :yes:

    I'm doing alright. :)
  • Former MemberFormer Member Lyrical Poster Posts: 5,462 Part of The Furniture
    Hey, just wanted to comment to see how others are feeling with Christmas fast approaching :heart:
  • Former MemberFormer Member Lyrical Poster Posts: 5,462 Part of The Furniture
    Hey, hope everyone is doing okay. Feel free to post if you any support or even just a *hug*
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,875,648 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Wasn't sure whether to post this in this thread or elsewhere. I've always drank so much every christmas - I cannot stress how terrified I am. How is that going to go this year? And it's tomorrow, so it's pretty sudden.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,875,648 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Wasn't sure whether to post this in this thread or elsewhere. I've always drank so much every christmas - I cannot stress how terrified I am. How is that going to go this year? And it's tomorrow, so it's pretty sudden.


    It can be hard when we're in a familiar context we associate with drinking.. what do you think you could do to help you cope tomorrow?

    Maybe make sure you have some tasty alternatives like tasty juices or soft drinks so you can feel you're having a treat as well. Or perhaps give yourself a limit for the day and pace your drinks for key times of the day.

    It's not easy but your awareness of what's going on for you this year will help too. Big hug *hug*

    And do use this thread when you need to over Christmas everyone :heart:
  • Former MemberFormer Member Lyrical Poster Posts: 5,462 Part of The Furniture
    Wasn't sure whether to post this in this thread or elsewhere. I've always drank so much every christmas - I cannot stress how terrified I am. How is that going to go this year? And it's tomorrow, so it's pretty sudden.


    Sending you big *hug*s

    You can get through this, you're strong and you can get through this, I am here for you :heart:

    I really wish there was something more I could do or say to help, but you know we are here for you, and you know where I am if you need a chat or a virtual hug. Sending you love and hugs :heart:
  • Former MemberFormer Member Lyrical Poster Posts: 5,462 Part of The Furniture
    It's suddenly just hit me that it's Christmas tomorrow, the first Christmas without my Nanna, and I am going to be visiting her curbstone tomorrow. I should be seeing her on Christmas day. I know it's life. I know we don't live forever. But just all seems so real. Idk how to explain it.
  • Former MemberFormer Member :) Posts: 2,072 Boards Champion
    It's suddenly just hit me that it's Christmas tomorrow, the first Christmas without my Nanna, and I am going to be visiting her curbstone tomorrow. I should be seeing her on Christmas day. I know it's life. I know we don't live forever. But just all seems so real. Idk how to explain it.

    Big hugs *hug*

    Here to listen if you want to talk :heart:
  • Former MemberFormer Member Lyrical Poster Posts: 5,462 Part of The Furniture
    apandav wrote: »

    Big hugs *hug*

    Here to listen if you want to talk :heart:


    Thank you, I shouldn't have posted. I actually didn't want to use this thread for myself, but yeah.. Pretty upset. I'll be okay.
  • Former MemberFormer Member :) Posts: 2,072 Boards Champion


    Thank you, I shouldn't have posted. I actually didn't want to use this thread for myself, but yeah.. Pretty upset. I'll be okay.

    Big *hug* s

    I know how difficult it is facing your first Christmas without a loved one, like many people I've been there too. I can really empathise, hope your okay :heart:

    PS. It's a great idea that you made this thread and we can all get the benefit from it, including yourself :heart:

    Oh and of course merry Christmas!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Lyrical Poster Posts: 5,462 Part of The Furniture
    apandav wrote: »

    Big *hug* s

    I know how difficult it is facing your first Christmas without a loved one, like many people I've been there too. I can really empathise, hope your okay :heart:

    PS. It's a great idea that you made this thread and we can all get the benefit from it, including yourself :heart:

    Oh and of course merry Christmas!


    Thank you so much apandav :heart:

    Your words mean so much.

    I'm okay which I am surprised about, I guess I was more upset yesterday, I can't really explain it. Like I know my Nanna is safe now, she isn't in any more pain, and I know how much my Nanna loved Christmas, and trying to remember the positive times we've had. :heart:

    I hope your okay too *hug*s
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,875,648 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Big hugs to everyone today *hug* hope everyone is managing as well as they can
  • Former MemberFormer Member :) Posts: 2,072 Boards Champion
    *hug* s to all those who need it!
  • Former MemberFormer Member :) Posts: 2,072 Boards Champion


    Thank you so much apandav :heart:

    Your words mean so much.

    I'm okay which I am surprised about, I guess I was more upset yesterday, I can't really explain it. Like I know my Nanna is safe now, she isn't in any more pain, and I know how much my Nanna loved Christmas, and trying to remember the positive times we've had. :heart:

    I hope your okay too *hug*s

    Thanks *BananaMonkey* :heart:

    I completely understand, keep posting if you feel it would help *hug*
  • Former MemberFormer Member :) Posts: 2,072 Boards Champion
    Trying to enjoy Christmas, but it isn't as easy as I hoped. I did phone Samaritans this morning which really helped!

    I feel I often need my space, yet I feel guilty for going upstairs to my room- I just need alone time. I do love my family (despite everything) and want to spend time with them, though I don't feel I can sit with them the full day!

    I just think yeah Christmas is nice and all but sadly reality hits- doesn't solve my problems!

    Oh well I need to try and make the most of it- its only one day! I'm sad to say its going in slow, but I'm trying to stay busy- helped mum with the dinner, did a page of my new colouring in book and now spending some time on thesite!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Lyrical Poster Posts: 5,462 Part of The Furniture
    Feel so ill. :/
  • Former MemberFormer Member :) Posts: 2,072 Boards Champion
    Feel so ill. :/

    Sending *hug* s hope you feel better soon :heart:
  • Former MemberFormer Member :) Posts: 2,072 Boards Champion
    Feeling sad my papa isn't staying for his dinner as planned (he's not feeling well). Last time he came around was when my nan was still here in 2009 :(

    Also was looking forward to having someone else to make conversation, its just me, my mum and dad. My gran too, she has dementia so its difficult for her to make conversation, its hard to explain :(

    Plus feel like a shit daughter for spending time up in my room, but yeah just not up for it!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Lyrical Poster Posts: 5,462 Part of The Furniture
    apandav wrote: »
    Feeling sad my papa isn't staying for his dinner as planned (he's not feeling well). Last time he came around was when my nan was still here in 2009 :(

    Also was looking forward to having someone else to make conversation, its just me, my mum and dad. My gran too, she has dementia so its difficult for her to make conversation, its hard to explain :(

    Plus feel like a shit daughter for spending time up in my room, but yeah just not up for it!


    Sending you *hug*s hope your okay :heart:
  • Former MemberFormer Member Lyrical Poster Posts: 5,462 Part of The Furniture
    apandav wrote: »

    Sending *hug* s hope you feel better soon :heart:


    Thank you, I feel loads better now. Had like a 2 hour nap. :heart:
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,875,648 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Lol Christmas was all good until like 30 mins ago fml
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,875,648 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Enchanted wrote: »
    Lol Christmas was all good until like 30 mins ago fml
    *hug* What's happened?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,875,648 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hiccup wrote: »
    *hug* What's happened?
    Multiple things just real annoyed and upset with people rn
  • Former MemberFormer Member Lyrical Poster Posts: 5,462 Part of The Furniture
    Sending *hug*s to those who need them :heart:
  • Former MemberFormer Member :) Posts: 2,072 Boards Champion
    Feeling trapped in life, realising all these issues are minor compared to the fact I know my life will just get shittier, I don't fit in in this planet, I feel what's the point, ugh just everything :(
  • Former MemberFormer Member Lyrical Poster Posts: 5,462 Part of The Furniture
    apandav wrote: »
    Feeling trapped in life, realising all these issues are minor compared to the fact I know my life will just get shittier, I don't fit in in this planet, I feel what's the point, ugh just everything :(

    Sending you *hug*s We are here for you. Wanna chat about anything?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,875,648 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Guess I'm stuck in the house for a while since my town has flooded... Well this is new haha
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,875,648 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Enchanted wrote: »
    Guess I'm stuck in the house for a while since my town has flooded... Well this is new haha

    Some friends are affected too.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Noob Posts: 2,197 Boards Champion
    Is this all nearly bloody over yet?
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