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Anybody want to vent or chat about anything? w/c 06.10.25
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@Redemption what are they saying bro?
@DonnerKebab Just the usual that ill stay jobless all my life and ive never had a job , its hurtful bro
@Redemption it will be hurtful, but the ones who are coming at you, saying these things, don't see the full picture of how much you're trying, and they don't give you credit for it. What they are saying is bullcrap.
Yh thats right bro its just tough bro its only a matter of more time till its said again @DonnerKebab
I think I remember watching if before once a few years ago. It's a very good show to be fair. I've only seen clips I think of it but from I've heard it's definitely a good watch. I've been watching Dexter at the moment but I'm only on season 1, episode 4. It's on channel 5 but I think I have until the end of October to finish watching Dexter because they take it of at the end of October I think.
Also keeping an eye on my post count bc i don’t want my 10,000th post to be memorable for the wrong reasons
Why are people so horrible, I don’t understand why out of everyone they targeted us. Well I partly do but can’t say and it’s still nothing to fucking do with us. Proximity to innocent associates of bad people shall we say. Why do bad things happen to me and my family?
@independent_ that constant hypervigilance is going to be extremely draining and exhausting. Can i ask, would you be comfortable trying to sleep in shifts? I know it's a rotten thing to have to do, but if you aren't alone at home, and have family there, is it possible to take turns on watch, whilst the others sleep. And that way, the burden of staying on watch doesn't have to fall on one person, and everybody has a chance to get some sleep safe and sound.
And some people in the world are just rotten. I don't know the situation, and i won't pry, but some people will just go for who they assume are easy targets, and will just target innocents, just by association. It's truly cruel stuff, and you should never have ever been dragged into whatever it is. Your whole family shouldn't have. You're one of the nicest people i've ever met, and it's unfair that someone as kind as you should have to suffer like this.
By the way, 10,000 posts is an insanely good milestone. They need to make an honorary badge at that point for you, cause it's seriously amazing.
@Redemption it will be tough. I'm not denying that. No matter how much you drill it into yourself, nasty belittling words will still always have an impact. All i can do is reassure you that what they say is bullshit bro. try your best as hard as it is not to let it demoralise you, or deter you from still trying. Keep trying, keep doing what your doing, and you'll get there and prove all those people wrong.
I just hate some people and what they do to others without a care in the world. Realistically they’d be stupid if they did come back, but that doubt is there in my brain and i have not missed panicking at every little noise. I probably have 6 months of this ahead of me, if the last god knows how many awful things that have happened in the fairly recent past have taught me anything at all.
21 fucking years this has been where I’ve always been safe and now it doesn’t feel that way at the moment
I love the badge idea lol, and I’ll get the 10th anniversary one in february, so that will be cool!
@independent_ you know what, i'm starting a petition to the mix now to get special medals for you now.
I know this isn't the same, but i grew up in a constant state of hypervigilance and paranoia myself, looking for any sign of a meltdown from my mentally disabled brother and aggressive attack against my mum, as they could kick off out of nowhere. A sudden loud noise, and i'm ready to act. That kind of hypervigilance, since i was 11. So from personal experience, i just wanted to try and offer what advice i can around hypervigilance. Sorry if this sounds useless or anything.
1. It does get exhausting. Physically, staying awake so long, not having routine sleep, it can really take a toll. Over the next 6 months, as you say, it's important to think long term over that time. So, perhaps not tonight, or for the next few days, but when things get truly exhausting for everybody, and from my experience of hypervigilance, it will, it might be worth having a talk about taking turns on watch, so everybody can sleep properly at some point.
2. Mentally, it will be exhausting. The first few months of hypervigilance are going to be the hardest, until it settles as routine if that makes sense, which is where it becomes easier somewhat. Especially mentally it becomes exhausting, so it's important to routinely check in with others, such as your family, and just vent about things, talk about things, and also see how they are, and just check up on one another from time to time.
3. You will need a break. This is an absolute must. Breaks are non negotiable. Nobody can do this 24/7 in hypervigilance, without a heavy mental toll. This is where i went wrong, and i don't want you to go through the same mental toll. So breaks are a must.
So with those points out of the way (sorry for the ramble), I also want to say that i fully agree with you that they would be stupid to come back. the whole street knows and has your back from what you've mentioned, the area will be crawling with more camera's than fort knox thanks to everyone in the area knowing and now being on alert, and the police will probably have you on a priority response list, and will possibly be patrolling the area. it would take mr bean levels of stupidity for anybody to come back, but mentally, it's hard to convince yourself they won't and they'll be that shadow of doubt over it. But you are right, they would be stupid to come back.
And it's fully understandable for it to feel like a violation. Your home is your sanctuary, where you are supposed to be safe. And for those bastards to have made it feel unsafe is beyond evil. You've got every right to feel angry, scared, worried, hypervigilant. All of it. However you do feel. This shouldn't have happened to any of you. And i just also wanted to say that i'm incredibly proud of how you've opened up here. It takes a lot of bravery to open up, so well done.
Anyway, sorry for the long ramble. I'm here to talk for however long you want to (just be careful cause you're 12 posts of 10,000).
@DonnerKebab I really appreciate it my guy. It still hurts even after its said like in bed at night it was getting to me.