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Empathy

Amy22Amy22 Posts: 5,475 Part of The Furniture
in Neurodivergence
I feel like I often struggle with empathy a lot especially as an autistic person. That's not to say I don't feel things because I want to rule out the misconception of autistic people having no empathy. I do in fact over empathise with people to the point where it can make me feel tired or overwhelmed. I often empathise so much with people, it's draining half the time I don't want to sound like I'm complaining or anything. I've been a people's pleaser to say the least I guess. I wonder if anyone struggles with over empathising or empathy in general and what tips you got?. Because I swear like sometimes there's something wrong with me because I laugh at all the wrong times, and don't feel much during the good times. Sorry for my rant.
Just a person who likes pop culture and films

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  • 63marie63marie Posts: 62 Boards Initiate
    Hey @Amy22, I can definitely relate to this so you're not alone. It can feel really tiring because it takes a lot out of you when you constantly feel like you're thinking of others and people pleasing. I've found it helpful to set aside some time in the day to do self-care and things I enjoy so I get a bit of time to decompress after feeling really overwhelmed.
    You deserve to look after yourself and to put yourself first - but I know it's easier said than done! Maybe try and start with small steps like setting some time aside for yourself, and the people who deserve to be in your life will understand that you deserve to set boundaries and look after yourself too <3
  • Amy22Amy22 Posts: 5,475 Part of The Furniture
    63marie wrote: »
    Hey @Amy22, I can definitely relate to this so you're not alone. It can feel really tiring because it takes a lot out of you when you constantly feel like you're thinking of others and people pleasing. I've found it helpful to set aside some time in the day to do self-care and things I enjoy so I get a bit of time to decompress after feeling really overwhelmed.
    You deserve to look after yourself and to put yourself first - but I know it's easier said than done! Maybe try and start with small steps like setting some time aside for yourself, and the people who deserve to be in your life will understand that you deserve to set boundaries and look after yourself too <3

    Hiya apologies for the late response. I did read this recently the other day but forget to reply 😅. I'm doing a bit better now, I think I was just having one of my usual rants. I am trying to make sure I also take time for myself too as well but sometimes I feel I might be resting too much than I need to. I think mostly for me it's recognising that I guess.
    Just a person who likes pop culture and films
  • 63marie63marie Posts: 62 Boards Initiate
    Hey @Amy22, that's okay! I'm glad you're feeling a bit better now :) Yeah it's really important we take time for ourselves and I'm glad you're trying to make time to do that. Yeah I get you, it can be really hard to recognise when we need to take some time out. Sometimes I find scheduling certain times in the day where I do self-care activities quite helpful. I hope you're having a good day :)
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