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Self and ideal self

Kate_20Kate_20 Posts: 659 Incredible Poster
in Health & Wellbeing
Self: disgusting, unsuccessful, hurting, stupid, messy, clumsy, careless, useless, depressed, anxious, lonely
Ideal self: charming, successful, healing, smart, organised, graceful, careful, useful, happy, relaxed, popular
Tengo el alma en cuarentena y roto el cuerpo
Qué dolor, qué pena y qué tormento
El Kanka - Lo mal que estoy y lo poco que me quejo

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,327 Wise Owl
    Hey @Kate_20,

    It sounds like you're feeling overwhelmed and hopeless right now. Do you feel able to express more about what's happened today to make you feel this way? Also, I just wanted to remind you that you're going through a lot right now, and dealing with a great deal of pain. You're doing the best you can within your circumstances, please be gentle with yourself, getting through each day when you're dealing with so much, is a really great achievement <3
  • Kate_20Kate_20 Posts: 659 Incredible Poster
    @Brookee Nothing really. Just a reflection on how I view this world. It is good to notice my thinking patterns.
    Tengo el alma en cuarentena y roto el cuerpo
    Qué dolor, qué pena y qué tormento
    El Kanka - Lo mal que estoy y lo poco que me quejo
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,327 Wise Owl
    @Kate_20 It's really important and helpful to be aware of how you think, but I also wanted to remind you that you're important, and we care about you, you're not alone in this. Can I ask you why you see yourself so negatively?
  • Laura_tigger82Laura_tigger82 Discussion Boards Moderator Posts: 5,456 Part of The Furniture
    Hi @Kate_20

    Thanks for reaching out to us. I always appreciate how much courage it must take to reach out. I just want to reiterate what @Brookee has said. If it helps, we think you are all of the things you want to be except happy and relaxed! And the only thing that would boost that is if you took care of yourself and your wellbeing more often. We care about you and in time you will be happy and relaxed like you want to be :3
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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 41 Boards Initiate
    Hi

    like @Kate_20 i have struggled with my self esteem for years the list Kate wrote of the self v the ideal. I think because of this
    that I have struggled with drink, drugs and unsafe sex, also the way I am treated by my dad doesn’t help.
  • Kate_20Kate_20 Posts: 659 Incredible Poster
    @annas
    Sorry to hear that you are struggling and it is very brave for you to reach out. Sending hugs <3 Would you mind going into details about the aspects you are struggling with? Don't worry if you don't want to.
    Tengo el alma en cuarentena y roto el cuerpo
    Qué dolor, qué pena y qué tormento
    El Kanka - Lo mal que estoy y lo poco que me quejo
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