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I really need some advice from people who might have been through similar or in a long-distance relationship now others views on this situation really. I feel so helpless right now.
Me and my boyfriend have been going out since January. Everything is going fine with us and there are no issues apart from the distance there now is. We are now about 200miles apart because of corona and unsure when we will next see each other.
Last night we called after a little while of not talking because of exams and I could tell something was up. He told me he is struggling with lockdown and the distance between us and how there will always be distance now (he is doing a year working when i am in my last year at uni and then i would finish uni by his last year the year after). He assured me all the feelings are still there and he didn't want to break up with me but he isn't happy at the moment and wanted to let me know. He told me he would never break up with me over the phone/facetime and would come and see me first and we don't have to decide what we are going to do immediately but its made me so so so upset.
I do really love him and feel so comfortable around him and he has helped me through so so much. I would hate to break up because i am finally happy but i dont want him to stay with me for that reason if he doesnt want to and isnt happy. Now im in some weird limbo where we are together but i dont really feel like we are at the same time and as much as i want to see him it would be so hard if he came down to see me and i knew we would then break up at the end. I would prefer him to end it now if thats what he wanted so i could try and move on than keep being together and then breaking up in a couple of months if that's what is going to happen. but then i don't want to end it if there is the possibility that we would work through it. I am happy to do distance if he is but we have to both want to make it work.
I keep thinking about it and crying all the time and the first thing i want to do is call or message him when im upset but i dont think it will help the situation at all. I am giving him space to think about what he wants for a few days.
Has anyone been through similar and can offer advice or give their view on it? It would be very appreciated!