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Hi, my name is lauren

laurenhlaurenh Posts: 1 Just got here
in Sex & Relationships
So basically my issue is that my boyfriend feels like I’m being dishonest and hiding things from him. I’m obviously not but he is adamant to the idea that I am. He has literally been through my phone endless times and I’ve tried reassuring him that there’s nothing but he’s not having it. Please help I just want things to be good again. 

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    *BananaMonkey**BananaMonkey* Posts: 5,462 Part of The Furniture
    Hey Lauren,

    Welcome to The Mix community, 

    Sorry to hear about what your going through, do you have people to talk too about things with your boyfriend?:heart:

    Having somebody to talk to about this could help you, we are here for you also. 

    Could you try and have a sit down convo with your boyfriend about your worries, and how it's making you feel. 

    We are here for you if you need to chat about things 


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    SienaSiena Posts: 15,500 Skive's The Limit
    Heyy. Welcome to the site!!

    that sounds really frustating.  Do you know why he feels like that? Has he been cheated on before? Think maybe finding out why could help so you can reasure him or find way to help. Obvs cant change his mindset yourself. Esp if youre not the problem.
    Do you allow him to check your phone? obviously havin trust in relationship is important. Sometimes can take patience & lot of time. But you have to know whether your okaystill bein in that relationship. As im sure you kno the relationship more & to think about if things would change & how. 
     Constantly trying to prove you are faithful sounds like would get quite exhausting. 


    Wish i had answer for you but wish you all the best
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    RileyRiley Moderator Posts: 991 Part of The Mix Family
    Hey @laurenh just to say I've moved your thread from Introduce Yourself to Sex & Relationships just to make sure you get the right attention here on the boards.

    Welcome to The Mix!

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    chubbydumplingchubbydumpling Posts: 487 Listening Ear
    Hi Lauren

    I'm sorry to hear that you and your boyfriend are experiencing problems. It sounds very distressing for you. May I ask how old you are, and how long you have been in this relationship? These things might impact the type of advice I can give. :)


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    AzzimanAzziman Moderator, Community Champion Posts: 1,858 Extreme Poster
    Hi Lauren, welcome!x

    It sounds like your boyfriend is being paranoid without reason. Don't let him control your actions and take over your phone etc - that's not what a healthy relationship looks like, it's what a loving relationship turning into a controlling relationship looks like!x 

    Much love <3
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