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Staying with friends

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
Hi so I'm staying with friends atm. Two women.. I am finding it tough to be constantly around people when I used to live alone. I have lived with people in the past but not for a while. I am struggling to keep calm and not get stressed out.

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  • AifeAife LondonPosts: 2,207 Moderator
    Hey Turtle,

    I'm sorry to hear you're finding it tough to live with your friends at the moment. It can be hard moving back in with friends and getting used to a busy house when we're used to living alone. For some people what can help is to take some time in the day for yourself, so finding a quiet room to chill out in away from your housemates. Do you have your own room where you can go when you feel things are getting a bit too hectic? Communication is also really important too, do you feel you can talk to your housemates about what you're feeling stressed about?

    - Aife
    Maybe somethings don't get better, but we do. We get stronger. We learn to live with our situations as messy and ugly as they are. We fix what we can and we adapt to what we can't. Maybe some of us will never fully be okay, but at least we're here. We're still trying. We're doing the best we can. That's worth celebrating too ❤
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hi Aife
    I have my own room it is small but I like it. That's a good idea. I can't really talk to my friends as it is there house I am just staying in . Just don't feel like I have much say in like things and that's ok.. but I m nervous I am going to be annoying to them.
  • ShaunieShaunie I’m alive but I’m dead England 🏠Posts: 11,277 An Original Mixlorian
    Hey turtle

    I understand the stress of being around people being to much. Especially if it's all of a sudden and not use to it. It can take some time to get use to but nice that you have your own room. And going out when you feel stressed for a walk or something that calms you down could help?. By yourself or with other People in a different environment.

    You live there so you have some say in things if you don't feel comfortable with certain things . And can say it in ways that may not seem annoying
    𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐬𝐭𝐨𝐩 𝐝𝐨𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐬 𝐭𝐨 𝐦𝐚𝐤𝐞 𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮, 𝐚𝐬 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐠𝐨 𝐭𝐡𝐫𝐨𝐮𝐠𝐡 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐰𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐫 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐰𝐡𝐨 𝐝𝐨𝐧’𝐭 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮. 𝐁𝐮𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞𝐚𝐛𝐥𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐰𝐡𝐨 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐫𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐲𝐨𝐮. 𝐒𝐨 𝐛𝐞 𝐮𝐧𝐚𝐩𝐨𝐥𝐨𝐠𝐞𝐭𝐢𝐜𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐫𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐰𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐜𝐤 𝐚𝐫𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐝. 💕💕
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hi thanks Shaunie
    I am just staying up away sometimes away form folk. I keep making tenison unintentionally
    Thanks for your advice
  • MikeMike Screen addict 🎮 LondonPosts: 2,918 Community Manager
    How's it going, Turtle?
    All behaviour is a need trying to be met.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Things settled down a bit thankfully I always worry about being rude etc to people. I am going to move and stay with some family for a month next week. And then move again in July.

    But it's ok. :) Hope you are ok too .
  • RhysRhys Posts: 280 The Mix Regular
    Hey Turtle, just checking in to see if everything is okay. :)
    “Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind.”― Bernard M. Baruch
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Just moving tomorrow but all good. Hoping things will settle down when staying with down family
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