peer pressure help

luckyducky

My friends pressure me into stuff I dont really want to do theyre are like "itll help your anxiety" and saying Im too innocent. I feel uncool because my friendships are basically like I just follow people around and do what they want cause I dont want to be alone.

I havent found friends who respect my feelings, my friends trick me about my feelings for example I said my heart is beating way too fast because Im nervous and they said No that means youre excited.

How can I say No in a way that doesnt make me the loser? is it ok to say no to something even if it annoys everyone else so its fairer to say yes?

Verity

Hey @luckyducky thanks for sharing this, it makes complete sense to feel this way. Being called 'too innocent' and 'uncool' must be really hurtfull, espesically when you want friends who respect you and care about your feelings. Please know that your boundries and feelings really matter. You are definately not boring for not wanting to do certain things, you are just being true to yourself and knowing what you don't enjoy right now which is really important. No one should ever make you feel bad for this, and it dosn't mean that friends who will understand you don't exist.

Learning to say no is really hard, you could always start by just explaning that whatever they are pressuring you to do isn't really your thing and you'd more enjoy doing something else, they might even enjoy doing whatever that other thing could be, how does that sound? but try and remember that you don't owe anyone a long explanation or apology for this.

We're here to listen and would be really interested in how this goes for you, feel free to share if you are comforable.