I want girlfriend

Redemption

I’ve been wanting a girlfriend recently, and I’ve been thinking about women a lot for a while and spoken about it a few times. I want someone I can be loyal to, someone I can hug, love romantically, and care deeply about. I want a future with someone I can laugh with, share hobbies with, support and be supported by, and have new experiences with. I feel lonely now and only have a small circle of friends, and I really want to find the right woman to be more than friends with. I’ve never dated before and want to experience it, but dating apps don’t seem promising, I don’t have friends who can introduce me to women, I get too scared to speak to new people, and I don’t go out much, so I’m not sure how I’ll meet someone. Sometimes, if I see a woman in public or on a course and maybe like them, I think, “Do I have a chance with them?” or notice they’re nice looking, but I often feel women don’t give that vibe. I’d rather it take longer to find the right person than rush into a rubbish relationship. I never want a toxic relationship or to be taken advantage of. I want someone genuine who likes me for who I am.

I’m also not confident, and I’ve heard that confidence is attractive, which makes me worry even more, but I do believe I have qualities that could make me a good partner. I’m not too fussed on looks. If anything, someone genuinely loving is a green flag, and another green flag would be being able to get on well with her family. Everyone seems to have relationships, and I imagine what it would be like if I didn’t. It’s not urgent. I don’t need it overnight or tomorrow, but long term, I do want to be with someone. I couldn’t be single my whole life, and I’m relying on it eventually happening, sooner rather than later, but at the same time, I want to be with the right person, ideally for life. It’s all hard though. Heartbreak can be extremely painful and even dangerous, and that is assuming I meet someone in the first place. I’m sure I will, but I just don’t know how yet.

Verity

Hi @Redemption thanks for sharing this, it's really great that you've been so open and I'm sure alot of people are relating to you. It sounds like you have thought this through in really mature way and you have a clear understanding of what you want and don't want, that's amazing! As you said, you 'don't know yet' when a realtionship may happen, you don't need to rush into anything, getting to know others at your own pace is comepletely okay. If you ever want to talk more about this, we're here to support you.

Redemption

Verity wrote: »

Hi @Redemption thanks for sharing this, it's really great that you've been so open and I'm sure alot of people are relating to you. It sounds like you have thought this through in really mature way and you have a clear understanding of what you want and don't want, that's amazing! As you said, you 'don't know yet' when a realtionship may happen, you don't need to rush into anything, getting to know others at your own pace is comepletely okay. If you ever want to talk more about this, we're here to support you.

Thank you @Verity I can talk more about next week when chats come back. Really appreciate it