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Anybody want to vent or chat about anything? w/c 13.10.25

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  • independent_independent_ Community Connector Posts: 9,996 Supreme Poster
    @DonnerKebab thank you I will definitely think about it.

    And yes it’s unfair. So unfair. Life has just gone that way for most people I know. You know how you get some people who are super lucky, live a good life and never face any hardship at all? I mean I know a couple of those but the vast majority of people I know have had at least one really shitty thing happen to them. And I don’t mean burning their chips they were planning to have for tea. Like the worst kinds of shitty things.
    “Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to, it’s not for them.”
  • NathanNathan Community Connector Posts: 2,386 Boards Champion
    @DonnerKebab thank you I will definitely think about it.

    And yes it’s unfair. So unfair. Life has just gone that way for most people I know. You know how you get some people who are super lucky, live a good life and never face any hardship at all? I mean I know a couple of those but the vast majority of people I know have had at least one really shitty thing happen to them. And I don’t mean burning their chips they were planning to have for tea. Like the worst kinds of shitty things.

    @independent_ please don't feel pressured into talking with them if you don't want to, i know you said you found it harder and harder to talk about it. I just wanted to put that resource out there, just in case you wanted to one day if you ever felt comfortable. Sorry if it seemed i was pressuring you.

    And sometimes, there's no real explanation as to why some have it easy and some have it hard and go through such hardship. All that can really be done is to try and hang on through it all. And in this case, you're not only hanging on through the hardship, but your actively helping others through it, and making a huge difference for them, which as i said before is truly special.
  • independent_independent_ Community Connector Posts: 9,996 Supreme Poster
    @DonnerKebab no not at all I’m glad you sent the link actually as it was about 5am on saturday when i initially found it and you reminded me.

    The dead of night is actually calmer than earlier in the evening. I guess because there’s less noise. So I’m going to try and go to bed and I’m doing my normal shift on my facebook group in the morning, it gives me something to do and something else to think about.

    Thank you for listening <3 and remember to be kind to yourself.
    “Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to, it’s not for them.”
  • NathanNathan Community Connector Posts: 2,386 Boards Champion
    @DonnerKebab no not at all I’m glad you sent the link actually as it was about 5am on saturday when i initially found it and you reminded me.

    The dead of night is actually calmer than earlier in the evening. I guess because there’s less noise. So I’m going to try and go to bed and I’m doing my normal shift on my facebook group in the morning, it gives me something to do and something else to think about.

    Thank you for listening <3 and remember to be kind to yourself.

    @independent_ I'm always here if you ever want to chat friend. I'm glad you've got a good thing to occupy your time with and act as a distraction from things. You deserve a break from this all. Have a nice night independent, be kind to yourself, it's the LAW.
  • RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 5,707 Part of The Furniture
    Nathan wrote: »
    Redemption wrote: »
    Redemption wrote: »
    Redemption wrote: »
    My overthinking is playing up

    @Redemption hey bro, as Jazz say's, those are some good techniques to try. If you want to vent a bit about what thoughts your being overwhelmed with, and what you're overthinking over, we're here bro.

    @DonnerKebab Thanks bro, its just a couple of things that happened in the past, I don’t think I can talk about it too much but I mentioned it a bit on the daytime chat. I feel so ashamed of myself sometimes too.

    @Redemption i fully understand that, but I just wanted to say, from what i've seen, if it is what i think it is, sorry if it's the wrong thing i'm thinking off, but you've got nothing to be ashamed off. Be proud of how far you've come, and how much of a welcome part of the community you are bro.

    @DonnerKebab im not too sure fully if its right if we're thinking of the same thing, we might be but I always appreciate your kind words. It sounds super sensitive but I overthink to the point I feel like crying over if a bit, its just like here has been so important to me so if I do something wrong here it hurts more.

    @Redemption it's okay to be sensitive to things. We aren't robots with zero emotions. We're human, and things getting us emotional is also human. Don't be pressured by society to feel like you can't be human and can't feel things that strongly effect you. Nothing wrong with being sensative.

    Overthinking is difficult, and it can really wear people down, so it's no surprise it brings you to the point of wanting to cry. It's a constant thing until it leaves you emotionally drained and depleted. And it's something that you deserve support with. I know you've finished counselling, but is it worth perhaps looking at NHS talking therapies who can offer things like CBT for those sorts of thought patterns that leads to overthinking?

    And like was said in chat earlier, and in the previous post, even if we aren't thinking of the same thing, you have come a long way, and are well loved by the community. That is a fact. Everybody makes mistakes and does stuff wrong. Heck, I've been here for less than 6 months, and I've been given several warnings here and there myself. It's human to make mistakes, to get things wrong at times and not be perfect. I fully get that given how much this place means to you, and that doing something wrong here will hurt more, but you have to give yourself some credit that it is mistakes and everybody makes them. Be kind to yourself over it bro.

    @DonnerKebab Thanks, bro. Really needed to hear that. You’re right, being sensitive isn’t weak, and mistakes happen to everyone. I’ll think about NHS therapy toomight help with overthinking. Appreciate you, man.
  • NathanNathan Community Connector Posts: 2,386 Boards Champion
    Redemption wrote: »
    Nathan wrote: »
    Redemption wrote: »
    Redemption wrote: »
    Redemption wrote: »
    My overthinking is playing up

    @Redemption hey bro, as Jazz say's, those are some good techniques to try. If you want to vent a bit about what thoughts your being overwhelmed with, and what you're overthinking over, we're here bro.

    @DonnerKebab Thanks bro, its just a couple of things that happened in the past, I don’t think I can talk about it too much but I mentioned it a bit on the daytime chat. I feel so ashamed of myself sometimes too.

    @Redemption i fully understand that, but I just wanted to say, from what i've seen, if it is what i think it is, sorry if it's the wrong thing i'm thinking off, but you've got nothing to be ashamed off. Be proud of how far you've come, and how much of a welcome part of the community you are bro.

    @DonnerKebab im not too sure fully if its right if we're thinking of the same thing, we might be but I always appreciate your kind words. It sounds super sensitive but I overthink to the point I feel like crying over if a bit, its just like here has been so important to me so if I do something wrong here it hurts more.

    @Redemption it's okay to be sensitive to things. We aren't robots with zero emotions. We're human, and things getting us emotional is also human. Don't be pressured by society to feel like you can't be human and can't feel things that strongly effect you. Nothing wrong with being sensative.

    Overthinking is difficult, and it can really wear people down, so it's no surprise it brings you to the point of wanting to cry. It's a constant thing until it leaves you emotionally drained and depleted. And it's something that you deserve support with. I know you've finished counselling, but is it worth perhaps looking at NHS talking therapies who can offer things like CBT for those sorts of thought patterns that leads to overthinking?

    And like was said in chat earlier, and in the previous post, even if we aren't thinking of the same thing, you have come a long way, and are well loved by the community. That is a fact. Everybody makes mistakes and does stuff wrong. Heck, I've been here for less than 6 months, and I've been given several warnings here and there myself. It's human to make mistakes, to get things wrong at times and not be perfect. I fully get that given how much this place means to you, and that doing something wrong here will hurt more, but you have to give yourself some credit that it is mistakes and everybody makes them. Be kind to yourself over it bro.

    @DonnerKebab Thanks, bro. Really needed to hear that. You’re right, being sensitive isn’t weak, and mistakes happen to everyone. I’ll think about NHS therapy toomight help with overthinking. Appreciate you, man.

    @Redemption this is how it's been described to me. Counselling helps to talk through and articulate your feelings and provides a few coping strategies, but the NHS's main talking therapy, CBT, focuses on changing the thought patterns that actually leads to that overthinking, if that makes sense, and tackles the issue head on. So it's worth a try bro.
  • eylaheylah Community Connector Posts: 9,621 Supreme Poster
    Nathan wrote: »
    eylah wrote: »
    im not back 100% but just wanted to check in and say hi. i miss you all. <3

    @eylah you're really missed here too. Thanks for checking in my favourite twat in the world <3

    i miss you. <3 thanyou my favourite twat <3
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • NathanNathan Community Connector Posts: 2,386 Boards Champion
    eylah wrote: »
    Nathan wrote: »
    eylah wrote: »
    im not back 100% but just wanted to check in and say hi. i miss you all. <3

    @eylah you're really missed here too. Thanks for checking in my favourite twat in the world <3

    i miss you. <3 thanyou my favourite twat <3

    @eylah I hope everything is going okay for you, and you're being kind to yourself <3
  • CutelivejazzCutelivejazz Posts: 230 Trailblazer
    edited October 14
    Nathan wrote: »
    @Cutelivejazz yeah, just saying the cliche's doesn't really help a lot of the time, and from my personal experience, half of it is wrong anyway what's considered the cliche thing to say. And advice that works for one can't really be blanket applied to everybody either. Each person is different and deserves there own personal reply and advice, cause no one situation is the same.

    And yeah, that friend you mentioned doesn't exactly sound the most supportive friend at all. When your confiding about stuff that is deeply affecting you personally, a real friend shouldn't shut that down as being too negative or saying you're too depressed. A real friend ought to be there, and be supportive and listen to you. It's a shame, because you are a real friend to them, listening to them rant and ramble.

    And a sudden change in friendship's can often take people by suprise, especially really sudden ones. If you were both okay with it for years, and then all of a sudden, overnight it's changed, it's okay for it to feel suprising and make your skin crawl, and make you feel that way. However it makes you feel, it is valid.

    And about the PE kit. You are talking to health anxiety expert number 1. I went through a time when i couldn't so much as open my mouth on public transport cause of other peoples germs, washed my hands till they bled a few times, and poured fairy liquid into my eye, cause i touched my eye with the same hand i used to press the traffic light moments before. I've lived with severe health anxiety for a long time. I'm not sure if it is health anxiety what you've got, but wearing what other people wore making your skin crawl does sound familiar to me from my own experience. Please correct me if i'm wrong about it being health anxiety though. I'm biased about instantly assuming it's that, but i've got advice based on my own experience with it if it is.

    Also, hat's off to the PE teacher. At least you've got one teacher who is able to be understanding rather than just barking pointless rules at you for the sake of it.

    @Nathan Also wanted to say that the sking crawling thing was a one off thing im completely fine with it and i find it funny and I dont think its health anxiety bc it was more the texture and the smell (it was clearly wahsed but the detergent smelt weird like antiseptic) of the kit rather than the thought of someone else waring it
  • toffuna101toffuna101 Posts: 3,430 Boards Guru
    hello
  • RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 5,707 Part of The Furniture
    toffuna101 wrote: »
    hello

    Hey Toffuna I hope you're ok
  • toffuna101toffuna101 Posts: 3,430 Boards Guru
    Redemption wrote: »
    toffuna101 wrote: »
    hello

    Hey Toffuna I hope you're ok

    im ok thanks
  • CutelivejazzCutelivejazz Posts: 230 Trailblazer
    Idk why but I got like this sudden panic as support chat came to and end idk what wrong with me
  • NathanNathan Community Connector Posts: 2,386 Boards Champion
    Idk why but I got like this sudden panic as support chat came to and end idk what wrong with me

    @Cutelivejazz there's absolutely nothing wrong with that. Sometimes social anxiety get's me a little nervous at points. Do you know what specifically about it caused the panic attack if you don't mind me asking, and are you alright now?
  • NathanNathan Community Connector Posts: 2,386 Boards Champion
    toffuna101 wrote: »
    hello

    @toffuna101 hey, how are you today?
  • CutelivejazzCutelivejazz Posts: 230 Trailblazer
    edited October 14
    @Nathan its not even social anxiety its just idk what it is tbh this might sound weird but like you and ech0 have both been so nice to me and ofc bc I have attachment issues I feel like rly attached to both of you even tho I barely know either of you its smth ive always struggled with and felt embarrassed by so ig when chat ends ik I won't rly be able to talk to you guys so.. I just get panicked ig sorry it it sounds weird

    Edit: disacostaing again everything feels like its spinning a little and im on the verge of a panic attack and im having the urge ig cope with not the best techniques
  • NathanNathan Community Connector Posts: 2,386 Boards Champion
    @Nathan its not even social anxiety its just idk what it is tbh this might sound weird but like you and ech0 have both been so nice to me and ofc bc I have attachment issues I feel like rly attached to both of you even tho I barely know either of you its smth ive always struggled with and felt embarrassed by so ig when chat ends ik I won't rly be able to talk to you guys so.. I just get panicked ig sorry it it sounds weird

    Edit: disacostaing again everything feels like its spinning a little and im on the verge of a panic attack and im having the urge ig cope with not the best techniques

    @Cutelivejazz I promise you, it's not weird at all. When people haven't been listening and supporting you you're entire life, and nobody has understood what your saying, it's normal to get attached to the first few people who do somewhat understand and take the time to listen to you. It's nothing to be embarrassed about. When i first joined the mix 6 months ago, i really was the same. All i can say, is that on board's, i'm always here to talk to, with the exception of technical issues like i had on saturday, and you will always be listened to here. So it's not the end of conversations when support chat ends.
  • independent_independent_ Community Connector Posts: 9,996 Supreme Poster
    So today went ok. Nothing special and no more info on anything.

    I’m v overwhelmed tho bc I just cannot think straight on most other things. I have holiday packing to do and I can’t even work out where to start. My brain is just fried at the moment.
    “Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to, it’s not for them.”
  • RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 5,707 Part of The Furniture
    So today went ok. Nothing special and no more info on anything.

    I’m v overwhelmed tho bc I just cannot think straight on most other things. I have holiday packing to do and I can’t even work out where to start. My brain is just fried at the moment.

    @independent_ Im glad today went ok for you, I'm sorry to hear you're overwhelmed, once you're on holiday though that should help you relax, give you a break etc.
  • CutelivejazzCutelivejazz Posts: 230 Trailblazer
    I feel like shit today rly dont wanna go to school. Im sick, im tired, i didnt do anything last night if I keep going like this idk how ill get into any uni let alone Russel group im so fucking useless and I mess everything up idk wtf if wrong with me like why am I so lazy why cant I just function like a normal human being
  • RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 5,707 Part of The Furniture
    Im struggling, as always its only a matter of time till I get comments said to me, could happen later today, it will happen soon and Im struggling with the uncertainty and just feel so negative
  • RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 5,707 Part of The Furniture
    edited October 15
    I remember a couple of months ago I made a thread trying to be helpful and thought later Ive done a good deed, Ive helped but then I got told I have no purpose and its garanteed to happen again
  • toffuna101toffuna101 Posts: 3,430 Boards Guru
    Nathan wrote: »
    toffuna101 wrote: »
    hello

    @toffuna101 hey, how are you today?

    im ok thanks
  • RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 5,707 Part of The Furniture
    I think everyone at my course thinks I have a problem
  • CutelivejazzCutelivejazz Posts: 230 Trailblazer
    I had a really bad panic attack and got sent home early today
  • NathanNathan Community Connector Posts: 2,386 Boards Champion
    Redemption wrote: »
    I think everyone at my course thinks I have a problem

    @Redemption screw what others think. All that matters is that you're there, you're trying, and you're improving. Screw anybody who judges you. What right have they got to judge, when they've not been in your shoes and faced the challenges you've faced.
  • NathanNathan Community Connector Posts: 2,386 Boards Champion
    I had a really bad panic attack and got sent home early today

    @Cutelivejazz that sounds horrible to have gone through. Surely the sixth form won't be able to ignore it now they see the severity of it?
  • CutelivejazzCutelivejazz Posts: 230 Trailblazer
    edited October 15
    @Nathan i got given a paper bag to breathe in like in the movies I was shaking so bad tho and had to sit on the floor i was terrified bc it felt like everyone was mad at me
  • NathanNathan Community Connector Posts: 2,386 Boards Champion
    @Nathan i got given a paper bag to breathe in like in the movies I was shaking so bad tho and had to sit on the floor i was terrified bc it felt like everyone was mad at me

    @Cutelivejazz if people get mad at somebody for having a panic attack, then that says more about them than it does anybody else. I'm glad they gave you something at least and were able to let you have the rest of the day off, but they should be offering a lot more support than that to you.
  • CutelivejazzCutelivejazz Posts: 230 Trailblazer
    Im struggling
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