Newbies Corner!

Sian321

Hey everyone, welcome to 'Newbies Corner'!

We've had a lot of new members join us here on the Discussion Boards this summer (yey!), and we wanted to create a little space below for any folks who are new to pop by, say hello, make connections, and ask any questions you might have about how Community works!

If you have any technical difficulties or questions, you can also pop a message to the Staff Team via the Help Desk here: https://community.themix.org.uk/categories/help-desk.

If ever you'd like to join one of our live Support Chats or General Chats too, you can see our Chat schedule here - it would be so nice to meet you! - https://www.themix.org.uk/get-support/support-groups/

Welcome!

Sian321

Some questions to get us started if you're new - feel welcome to jump in below and say hi!

What's your first impression of Community so far?

What are you hoping to find here?

What's one thing you're proud of yourself for (it can be something that feels 'big' or 'small' - anything that makes you smile)!

Adventurelife

I am kind of hoping to maybe get some support, I am just really having a hard time and wanted a safe place to come to.

I am proud of myself for going out on my own

DragonHalodance

Hello Im DH,
Is there manual somewhere on how to go about how all this work? Also, I would like to update my profile pic to something else. I tried joining but nothing appears.

Katie

Hey there @DragonHalodance and welcome to our Community!

Do you have any specific questions? We're here to help! We have a bunch of how to guides if you click here too.

For our group chats, when they're open there will be a green "Join" button that will appear next to the room in that screenshot you've posted.

And to change your profile picture you just need to click your profile and then click "Change Icon"


Let us know if there's anything else we can help with!

345_berry

Hi I'm new here
I'm feeling a bit low today so I thought to post a comment

eylah

345_berry wrote: »

Hi I'm new here
I'm feeling a bit low today so I thought to post a comment

hi @345_berry . welcome to the mix how’re you today? sending you hugs 🫂

Katie

Hey @345_berry welcome to our Community! You've done so well making an account and joining us. Let us know how you're feeling today - we're here for you!

345_berry

I'm feeling alright not that great still quite low.
Nice to join a community like this

sinead276

welcome to the mix @345_berry - hope you're feeling a little better today

LolaPumpkin13

Hey my name is Lola I’m having a hard time with a break up and just need some help thanks

LolaPumpkin13

Any advice would do?

eylah

hey @LolaPumpkin13 . nice to meet you . hru doing today?

LolaPumpkin13

Still struggling after 8 months but I’ve done some laundry did washed dishes and had a bath

LolaPumpkin13

There’s just a lot more to it it is not just a normal break up it is very complicated and I’ve been everywhere to get help

Nathan

LolaPumpkin13 wrote: »

Hey my name is Lola I’m having a hard time with a break up and just need some help thanks

@LolaPumpkin13 hey lola, nice to meet you. Welcome to the mix. There's plenty of support and help here for you here. There's a lot of people who have been through similar struggles. So you aren't alone friend.

LolaPumpkin13

Thank you

Leyla

Hey @LolaPumpkin13 I wonder if you'd be willing to tell us a bit more about this break up, as you said there seems to be more to it? No pressure at all but it might be nice to get it out there - we're hear to listen

LolaPumpkin13

Sure it is going to be a long story but we met in work we was always together during a few weeks together I met his family we went to Poole and on the same night my families home caught on fire and I was living in hotels constantly moving around had belongings in bags and he was always with me whether that was at his the hotels or work even if he was working and I wasn’t I was with him whether that was in the break room waiting for him or if he was working on reception I would stand next to reception not that I didn’t trust him but because he wanted me there but there was times where I accused my ex of cheating due to a past relationship a few times living in the hotel but as soon as I moved in the flat it just all changed I just thought breaking up with him even though there was nothing wrong and it can back a few times and just the thoughts of being single and searching it up and said something about avoidant attachments and commitment issues and remember asking my grandad about it and he said you and my ex are young so you should be out having fun and my head just said about going out clubbing and sleeping with other people we went on a break a few times because of the single thoughts but I would always run back but it just got worse I tried going to the doctors for the thoughts and they told me to go to vitalminds and they said the couldn’t do anything as it wasn’t mental health so they told me about counselling for relationships which I did do but I couldn’t do anymore also I has thoughts of cheating which I searched up because I didn’t understand and it said to tell your partner which I did which obviously he was upset and it would go but it would come back and I couldn’t take it anymore so we broke up for the last time because I remember speaking to dad about and he said to let him go which I did but even since I’ve tried fighting for him getting him back I’ve been to all different mental health places I’ve had many suicidal attempts but he doesn’t want anything to do with me anymore which breaks my heart as he was my everything

LolaPumpkin13

I’ve had panic attacks conastly I’ve stopped going to work I have only just gone back to work I’m still not ok as I don’t know what my future was as we promised to move in and marry each other so I guess im grieving

Leyla

Hey @LolaPumpkin13, thank you so much for letting us know the story with your ex, it means a lot that you're opening up here.

Wow, it really sounds like the past couple of years have been draining for you in so many ways, whether that is the fire, the constant moving around, the doubtful thoughts you had during your relationship, or the suicidal attempts in the wake of this break up. You said you think you might be grieving and I think that's a perfect way to describe it because you sound like you are mourning what could have been in a different time or if things had played out differently. Grief is about losing something important and that has what happened. Your feelings are so valid here, it is so understandable why this would have such a daily impact on you and seep into every moment of your day.

There is a lot for you to process in your life so it makes sense you have only recently been able to go back to work, and well done for making that step.

I wonder what sorts of thoughts and feelings go through your head on an average day at the moment?

If you made this a post then more people may see it to be able to provide some support or maybe even their advice with their own break-ups etc, but no pressure at all

LolaPumpkin13

I wake up everyday and just think what the thoughts mean I feel angry because I’ve been left to deal with it upset and just feel alone abandoned

Katie

Hey @LolaPumpkin13 I'm mindful this thread is for welcoming new users, so I wonder how you would feel creating a new thread in our Sex & Relationships Forum where you can share a little more about your breakup and how it is impacting you? Then we can support you on that thread.

Click here to go to the Sex & Relationships Forum and then you just need to click "New Discussion". Any issues doing this, just pop @TheMix a DM and we'll be happy to help

Sham

Hello everyone, welcome to the community. I hope you have as much fun as I do being a part of this wonderful community.

Sian321

Thanks so much @sham!