Therapy cant fix me, i am fucked

bignosegirly0

I was planning on deleting my whole account, but i wanted to make one more post before i leave.

Either my current therapist is fucking useless, or im unfixable. No fucking solutions is ever fucking offered. All we do is fucking chat for 50 minutes and I pay for another session.

Dont get me wrong, it's nice to vent to someone. but I'm paying to be fixed. A part of me fears that there is no solution for me, and I'm fucked.

These are my main issues which I deal with on a daily basis:

•mourning over the fact I'll never experience love because of my appearance, based on several experiences from childhood to adulthood, and my current workplace which reminds me of how undesirable I am in the real world.

•mourning over the fact that I'll never have worth due to my looks, again, based on several experiences and psychological studies proving how pretty privilege can massively impact someone's life and worth positively.

I've been jobsearching since last summer and got no luck, and my therapist even states that "I must feel trapped".

I fear that the reality is that I can't be fixed. There is no hope for me, and I've wasted so much money over nothing.

Azziman

Hi @bignosegirly0, thank you for sharing how you feel with us. I can hear your frustration with the therapist, and that you're not getting the outcomes you were looking for. How do you feel your therapist could be supporting you better when it comes to solutions - for example, are you looking for practical solutions that you can do right now? If you're not happy with your current therapist, would you consider looking for a different one to see if they can support you better? We're here to listen to you.

bignosegirly0

@Azziman I would like to come up with ways to cope with these depressing parts of my life by no longer letting it affect me emotionally.

I want to be okay with never finding love or having worth based on my looks.

I want to be bulletproof when men drag me down for my appearance.

Because it will never go away, so the best thing to do is to no longer be bothered with it.


I may go for a different therapist. The only issue is that she’s the cheapest one, and the rest are £50-£70, and I’m already spending £50 on driving lessons. Still, it is something I may consider.