Unsure about puberty

SwimmingOtter

Hi this is my first post and Ive not spoken to anyone about this before so Im pretty nervous but basically I am 13 and I feel like I am just really insecure about myself and puberty. It is really affecting me and I cant even use the bathroom in public bathrooms because Im afraid to

Katie

Hey there @SwimmingOtter first I just want to say welcome to our community!

I hear this is your first time speaking to anyone about this so a big well done on being able to open up. Being nervous is totally valid but as a community we're here to listen and support.

I'm hearing you're feeling insecure about yourself and puberty, and feel quite afraid using public bathrooms. Do you feel comfy sharing how long you've felt like this? I'm also wondering if there's anything in particular that makes you feel uncomfortable about using public bathrooms?

independent_

@SwimmingOtter I think most of us can relate in some way to this feeling. Puberty is a tough time for teenagers with so many body changes and hormones running around your brain like crazy, it can create so many feelings that are completely new.

I’m 22 now so this was a long time ago for me now but I definitely remember the insecurity that came with it. I can only speak from a female perspective but I imagine the same for boys too. As a girl, public bathrooms are nerve racking especially when you’re starting periods and have that to deal with as well as everything else, so that’s completely natural.

We’re right here if you want to share any more about what specifically is making you feel so insecure, hopefully we can try to help and reassure you. I may be an adult and long past this stage, but I remember it so well and it was one of the toughest times of my life too, so you’re not alone.