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Will never feel pretty again without my long curled lashes

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  • SerxphicSerxphic Posts: 51 Boards Initiate
    Ahh I totally understand how you're feeling, I kind of feel the same about my eyelashes, I really do feel they make my face too! But even without them, I'm sure you do not look like a man, your smile is not uglier. Everyone is different, some people have small eyelashes, some long; but no matter what they do not make them look any less pretty or beautiful. I find out of everything, confidence is gorgeous, no matter what you may think you lack, just being able to be proud of who you are and what you have is pretty.

    Also depending on what happened to them I'm sure there are ways you can try to start growing them back, theres lots of lash serum etc that you could look into, if you have some lashes left, even if they're short you might also be able to look into extensions. But no matter what, i'm sure you're just as pretty <3
  • Sian321Sian321 Community Manager Posts: 3,112 Boards Guru
    Hi @bignosegirly0 thank you for this post and for sharing your feelings.

    When you say you look like a 'man' or feel 'ugly', how does that make you feel emotionally?

    It can be vulnerable to share our insecurities sometimes with our appearance, and we're here to listen without judgement.
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  • Sian321Sian321 Community Manager Posts: 3,112 Boards Guru
    @bignosegirly0 , that sounds really hard - as though your 'purpose' or 'worth' as a woman might be dependent on your appearance in the eyes of men. I can hear just how defeated and low this makes you feel. We're here and we're listening.

    You’re allowed to explore what being a woman means to you, on your own terms. I wonder how can you meet yourself with kindness in this moment? As a gentle offering, maybe it’s worth asking who decided that being desired by men was the core indicator of your worth?

    You're doing so well to share these thoughts and explore this.
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  • Sian321Sian321 Community Manager Posts: 3,112 Boards Guru
    I hear you @bignosegirly0 , and that sounds extremely hard when - as you say - even if you've been able to reach more self-acceptance, externally you cannot control the behavior of others or the way specific men have treated you in the past.

    It sounds like their words or actions have had a really painful impact, and they stay with you.

    You're doing so well to share and express this, and your voice deserves to be heard.

    I wonder if there are any spaces in your life where you do feel valued for other attributes? Perhaps by men, or by other people more generally in your life?
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