(Trigger warning sh/suicidal thoughts) A friend

I have a friend who's not been doing well mentally at all and I've already gone to both other adults and counselor about ii and it's been 4 weeks and she gets better but then the weekends hit and everything goes down hill again and it gets worse, she does do sh and has had suicidal thoughts and her best friend told me she knows that it can get worse but her best friend moved away and now it's so much harder because I wasn't as close as those two were before and like I just don't know what to say

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shannon_164

hey @Sims 🙂

i’m really sorry you’re going through this, it sounds incredibly heavy, and i can tell you care a lot about her. you’ve already done the right thing by telling other adults and a counsellor, and i know it can feel frustrating and helpless when things don’t get better right away or keep slipping on the weekends. you’re doing more than most people would, and that matters!

i know you’re not as close to her as her best friend was, but just being there, checking in, and showing you care can mean so much more than you realise, especially when someone feels alone. you don’t have to have the perfect words - sometimes just saying, “i’m here for you” or “i care about you and i’m not going anywhere” is enough.

you’re not alone in this either. if it starts to feel like too much to carry, it’s ok to go back to an adult or counsellor and let them know it’s getting worse again. it’s not being dramatic, it’s being responsible and caring.

we’re always here for you

Sims

shannon_164 wrote: »

hey @Sims 🙂

i’m really sorry you’re going through this, it sounds incredibly heavy, and i can tell you care a lot about her. you’ve already done the right thing by telling other adults and a counsellor, and i know it can feel frustrating and helpless when things don’t get better right away or keep slipping on the weekends. you’re doing more than most people would, and that matters!

i know you’re not as close to her as her best friend was, but just being there, checking in, and showing you care can mean so much more than you realise, especially when someone feels alone. you don’t have to have the perfect words - sometimes just saying, “i’m here for you” or “i care about you and i’m not going anywhere” is enough.

you’re not alone in this either. if it starts to feel like too much to carry, it’s ok to go back to an adult or counsellor and let them know it’s getting worse again. it’s not being dramatic, it’s being responsible and caring.

we’re always here for you

Thank you so much it's been a bit to deal with but I do have another meeting with the counselor sometime next week so that'll be good to talk about it a little more than our last one that we had

shannon_164

i can only imagine how much it must be to be dealing with @Sims but you’re doing so well! it’s good to hear that you have another meeting with the counsellor too - how are you feeling about the meeting? no pressure to answer ofc

Sims

@shannon_164 still a bit nervous since it'll be after the weekends and my friend typically gets worse on the weekends so im aware there's going to be a lot to unpack in this next meeting but I know it'll be easier than the first time and every meeting helps my friend a little more

shannon_164

it makes total sense that you’re feeling a bit nervous @Sims as weekends can be tough, and knowing there might be a lot to unpack adds pressure. though it’s also really reassuring that you’re already thinking ahead and preparing yourself for it. you’re right - every meeting helps, even if just a little, and the fact that it’s getting easier each time is a sign of real progress, for both of you.

your friend is lucky to have someone who shows up with that kind of care and consistency. just remember to take care of yourself too, supporting someone else is important, but so is your own wellbeing. you’ve got this!

we’ll all be here if you want to talk about it before / after the meeting

Sims

@shannon_164 thank you I will most likely post another after the meeting happens next Monday