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Im actually so dumb
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I went to collect a click and collect order thinking it was ready even though I hadnt had confirmation it wasnt. Later I got the message went back and at first they still said it wasnt ready but then someone scanned my barcode and it was. After that I went to McDonald’s drive-thru for only the second time ever because of my social anxiety. I was so anxious I forgot my drink even though I definitely ordered one. I was too scared to go back in case they thought I was lying or just stupid. The whole thing made me feel like I cant do even simple things right. I do this kinda stuff all the time and now I’m really overthinking it which is making everything worse. It just triggered my anxiety and self-doubt even more. Im sorry to keep posting complaining about everything.
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Firstly I just want to say that you are far from dumb, anxiety of any sort is tricky to navigate so I think you did amazingly well to go to the McDonald’s drive through
The drive through are very busy usually and staff are usually scanning orders and can forget things, if you feel able to next time let them know that they forgot a part of your order than that is more than okay to do, also as well often getting a receipt can be handy so you can hand it to them and then you can know for certain 💕
Whilst I’m not caught up with all the click and collect systems I just want to acknowledge that I hear you
It sounds like the experiences were stressful so I was wondering what can you do to relax this afternoon
Really appreciate this @Rose113 thank you. Hope you're better today.
What I'm hearing is that you did an activity (the drive-thru) which has been really anxiety-inducing for you in the past, and making that decision to go there took a whole lot of courage!
I heard a bit of shame in your voice when you mentioned that you feel like you can't get 'simple things right', as though a critical voice within you was saying you should have been able to collect or go back for your drink? That sounds hard, and I hear you. And it's so valid that you found that scenario hard to navigate.
How have you been feeling about this since? And I wonder how you might comfort a friend if they were ever to go through a similiar situation? What would you say to them?
Hey @Sian321 , thanks so much for your message means a lot as always. I’m doing okay overall, just still trying to push forward and focus on getting into work. That’s been my main priority lately. As for the situation, I’m feeling a bit better about it now. At the time it really knocked my confidence, but I’ve had time to reflect and I’m trying to just learn from it and avoid putting myself in the same position again if I can. It’s not easy, but I know I’ve handled harder things before. If a friend went through something similar, I’d probably remind them that these things happen, and it doesn’t mean they’ve failed or done anything wrong. I’d try to be kind and supportive just like you’ve been with me, so thank you again for that.
That feels really powerful to say and to hold onto! Thank you for sharing.
I'm glad to hear you're feeling better about the situation currently, and we're here if you'd like to talk further.
Cheers @Sian321 I'll see you in a couple of mins on the support thread with Katie hopefully