Been struggling with my mood

Creativeboy23

Hello,

A pool and bowling group member was advising a fellow tenant about how he could work on himself and one of things I remember him saying to him was that he could advocate for his needs. His feedback has resonated with me making feel as though he said those things to me triggering different negative thoughts. I was thinking that the member was focussing on my shortcomings telling me that I need to advocate for myself and saying other things in front of staff and other members. I got defensive and left the leisure centre and withdrawing when I tried to talk.

I have taken the time to recognise that the thoughts are not accurate and I have challenged them. However, I imagined that I thought he formed a fixed and conclusive opinion which felt like definitive statement about who I was, which affected my self worth. I felt singled out, different, and isolated. Knowing that people have given me compliments when he focussed on my shortcomings reinforced my feelings because the staff’s working relationship with the member as well.