Feeling so stressed

Lola_G

Ok first of all I’m like about to break down cause I typed this all out once but it just deleted so I’m typing it for a second time 😭.

I’ve been feeling this way (like rlly stressed) for about a month and a half or so, but it’s rlly been peaking in the last two weeks and I keep breaking down over the smallest things that go wrong.

So basically I’m planning this trip with my friends and it’s rlly stressful and I’m scared of so many things going wrong, first of all, that my friends and boyfriend don’t enjoy the trip and find it boring, secondly, that the weather won’t cooperate and it’ll just rain the entire time, thirdly, we’re hoping to have a few drinks when we get there and relax but the purchasing age for alcohol isn’t exactly clear so I’m scared we won’t get served, fourthly, we’re visiting my home country and my grandma wants us to visit some of my relatives to show off to my friends kinda but I don’t rlly wanna take my friends and bf to meet my aunts and uncles cause it’ll be awkward and kinda kill the relaxing chill mood. I even said I’d go visit them another time when my parents come so I don’t just not see my relatives.

On top of all that I have so much uni work to do and it’s so stressful trying to juggle everything. Sorry for the rant, I just needed to get it all out and I also haven’t told anyone that I’m still stressed or about any of these problems that may arise during the trip.

If anyone has any advice it would be honestly so greatly appreciated x

Azziman

Hey @Lola_G, thank you for sharing your experience with us. It sounds like you're feeling stressed and that there's a lot on your plate at the moment, so you're feelings are valid. University work can be a challenge to juggle at the best of times - how are you feeling about your workload and assignments?

As for the holiday, let's go through the points you've mentioned. Coordinating a trip with friends can take a lot of effort, and you won't really know how you'll find it until you get there. What makes you worry that the others won't enjoy the trip?

As for the weather, that's not something we can control unfortunately (we Brits know this better than anyone!). Hopefully you get some good weather, but if not, I imagine there will be other things you can do - indoor activities, or perhaps spending more time at your accommodation? You'll work something out between yourselves if rain does ruin plans, but I wouldn't worry about it unless it happens!

On drinking, I can hear how you'd like to have some to relax. Can you find out ahead of your trip whether you're able to drink there? I'd be surprised if it isn't clearly marked out. Finally, on the family point - given that you're planning to go back to see family another time, I don't think it's unreasonable to spend this trip only with your friends. It's good to be honest with your grandma and let her know if you won't be taking up her invitation to see relatives this time, but reiterate that you'll come back again to spend time with them.

We're here to listen to you and support you through this

shannon_164

hey @Lola_G 🙂

i totally get why you’re feeling overwhelmed right now, and honestly, you’ve got a lot on your plate. it makes complete sense that it’s all piling up.

about the trip, just the fact that you’re putting so much thought into making it great shows how much you care, but i promise you, your friends and boyfriend aren’t expecting perfection. even if something goes slightly off plan (which happens on every trip), they’ll still have a good time because they’re with you. a trip is about the experience, not everything going 100% smoothly!

the weather, the alcohol situation, the family visit, those are all valid concerns, but they’re also things that can be worked around. if it rains, you’ll still find ways to have fun. if you can’t buy drinks, you’ll still be able to relax and enjoy each other’s company. as for your grandma, it’s so sweet that she wants to show you off, but you’ve already had thought of a compromise by visiting later with your parents, that sounded completely reasonable.

and on top of all that, you’ve got uni stress, which is just making everything feel even heavier. no wonder you’re feeling like you’re on the edge of breaking down, but please don’t feel like you have to carry all this stress alone - we are all here for you! only if you’re comfy sharing of course, but i wonder if you have any supportive people in your life that you’ve been able to share this with?

you’re doing so much, and you’re handling it way better than you think. i hope that you can try to be kind to yourself! you’ve got this, i believe in you