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Mokke2011

Hi everyone I am new to this website so I am sorry if I say something wrong the thing is that I need help and I don't feel safe with anyone so I got to ask here.

I am on social media and yesterday on reddit I got a dm from a person and she asked for my discord and I gave it to her and then we talked there. She asked me for my age and I told her I am 14 and she said she is 16. Then she asked me where I live and I told her I live in UK and then she told me where she lives (idk if I should say what that is bc of privacy I will just say Europe) and then she asked for my name but my parents don't allow me to say my name online so that's what I told her and she told me (stuff in quotes aren't actual quotes but what I remember) "its ok u can trust me I won't tell anyone u told me even if I wanted to I can't" so I did it I shared my first name and she said it was cute and shared her name (again not sharing). And then... She asked for face pic which I am not allowed to share too. I told her that and she told me not to be scared and to trust her and that she will not use it against me and then she shared pics of her face. But I am very insecure abt my face so I still didn't share it. She started saying "I will do everything for you to share your face pic" and I was confused bc we were speaking for at most an hour. I said "I am one of the 7 billion ppl on the internet why me" and she said bc I am "cute and shy" to me that still doesn't make sense there are many ppl like that. And then she said "when I talk to u I start shaking and I wonder what our lips feel like together" and then she started talking about my private part and what she wants to do to it. While all that she kept asking for the face pic.

Idk if this is ok, I never had anyone talk to me like that before but I also never had any friends before so I don't know what's normal but my parents always tell me that I shouldn't tell my name and face and no one should be talking abt my private part. So is it normal or not?

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Sian321

Hey @Mokke2011 , firstly, thank you so much for your trust in sharing this with us. It sounds like you're going through an uncomfortable and confusing situation right now, and it's so positive that you're reaching out for support. We're here with you to listen without judgement, and we can also share the names of other organisations that might be able to help you further.

You mentioned that you recieved a DM yesterday from a person online who you have been talking to on Discord. This person has said they are 16 years old and living in Europe. They have been asking you where you live, what your age is, and asking you to share a photograph of your face with them too, as well as talking about your private parts. This sounds really difficult, Mokke, and you're questioning whether or not this is normal.

We'd like to offer that no one has a right to ever make you uncomfortable, Mokke, and no one has the right to ask you to do anything that you don't wish to do, whether that's online or in-person. Can we ask, how safe are you feeling talking with this person?

We will share below some places that might be able to offer you some further support and advice around staying safe online:

There’s an organisation called ChildLine which offers information, advice and confidential counselling to anyone aged 19 and under on any issue affecting them. Their phoneline is open all day every day by calling on 0800 1111, or you can go to www.childline.org.uk to access their webchat service. They also have a message board for young people on their website .You can also email Childline by signing up for an account and can have 1-on-1 chats with a counsellor when signed into your account.

There’s an organisation called NSPCC. They offer advice, counselling & information to those concerned about a child at risk of abuse, including children and young people themselves. The helpline is available Monday to Friday 11am-5pm on 0808 800 5000, but you can email help@nspcc.org.uk or complete their report abuse online form on their website at any time. You can also use their online form to report abuse. If they feel a child is being abused or neglected they will want to intervene by using the information that you give them so if you want to remain anonymous then you should not give them personal details about yourself. You can also go to www.nspcc.org.uk for more details.

Is This Ok? Is an organisation that supports young people with anything you are worrying about or finding difficult covering a wide range of topics. If it is something you feel like you can't speak to anyone else about, they are there for you. They can also support you if you are worried that someone else is being badly treated or abused. They have a chatbot which can support you with advice and information 24/7. Is This Ok? use a chat-bot as an easy way of identifying the support you need. The chat-bot will be able to give you advice and information 24/7. You will then have the option to be transferred through to a trained chat advisor who will be able to listen and provide non-judgemental support. Their specialist advisers are available to chat to from 2:30pm-9:30pm Monday to Thursday and 4pm-11pm Friday, Saturday and Sunday. They are a completely anonymous service and won't ask you for any personal information. They are a service mainly for 13-18 year olds, but if you are slightly older than this and present an issue that they can support with, they will try and help. Their website is https://www.isthisok.org.uk/

There's an organisation called Cybersmile which runs a helpline, online community and is an online resource for anyone needing advice and support with a range of issues, for example, bullying, catfishing, gaming, online security, revenge porn, sexting, blackmail and legal rights. You can also email an advisor for personal support or get online support 24/7 through their Twitter page. Their helpline is available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. You can call them on 0800 783 1113 or email help@cybersmile.org or visit their website www.cybersmile.org for more information.

How do these sound to you?

You also mentioned at the top of your message that you don't feel safe with anybody. This sounds scary for you, Mokke, and can we ask who you feel unsafe around? What are you afraid might happen?

We're here to listen, and again, you're being so brave to talk about this

Mokke2011

Hi! Thank u so much! I mean I'm happy that they say that they like me for some reason but idk why they ask for this information and talk about my private. Tysm for the websites too I will visit them! I'm scared to ask my parents bc I don't want them to get me in trouble especially that I shared my name when I'm not allowed to. I was scared to make this post too bc I thought she could somehow find it or someone laughs at me. Tysm for the help seriously.

shannon_164

hey @Mokke2011 🙂

firstly, i’m really proud of you for reaching out for support, and sharing how you feel as i know that can be really difficult to do!

it sounds like a really difficult situation for you, and how you feel is so valid - you should only ever share with people what you feel comfy with, and if you’re not comfy with sharing some stuff, then that is 100% ok.

i really hope you’re ok and think that it was very brave of you to share what you experienced with us

independent_

It is always, always worth remembering that this person might not be who they say they are. Through years of experience on reddit and discord, you have to be really careful because they’re full of predators. You never have to keep talking to anyone who don’t want to or who makes you uncomfortable. It’s better to seem rude and block them than to build a connection and then find out they’re not who they say they are. Just an alternative perspective really.

Mokke2011

@shannon_164 thank u so much I am doing better now me and the person I mentioned in the post haven't talked since I made that post

@independent_ I understand what u mean but if how can they lie if they sent a picture of their face? I am a bit naive (idk if that's the word) so sry for the question

independent_

No worries at all, but that could be anyone's face. The internet is a big place and there are images out there of almost everyone, it's very very easy to go onto google and download someone elses photo

Amy22

independent_ wrote: »

No worries at all, but that could be anyone's face. The internet is a big place and there are images out there of almost everyone, it's very very easy to go onto google and download someone elses photo

I also agree this with as I have got some experience of meeting people online who are not who they say they are so it's always best to be extra careful when on websites such as discord, reddit etc because you may think that the picture they sent is actually them but it could be anyone. One good tip I would reccomend is that if your unsure, it may be best to do a google reverse search which means you would copy and paste the image into google to see if it's authentic. Sadly I know sometimes people on the internet tend to pretend to be someone they are not especially around younger people too. While it may seem that the picture may be authentic and them, it's always best to double check. One tip I tend to use is to treat the internet as my front door, "I probably wouldent let a stranger into my house" therefore I should be careful online. Of course if I have met someone who is who they say they are then thats fine but its always handy to be weary at times.

Also, I noticed you mentioned about them talking about doing explicit things with you and I was wondering how that made you feel? Sometimes people can be very pressurising at times and may ask you to do things you dont want to do and its important to be honest and explain that you dont feel comfortable with the way they are talking. It also sounds like she may have been pressurising you into sending a pic of yourself to her and I would be careful just in case. I hope your doing okay right now @Mokke2011

Mokke2011

@independent_ @Amy22 tysm for the tips, I haven't done reverse search yet but that person also said they r a model so it would make sense for their face to be online if they r saying who they r I think. About the explicit stuff I felt a little uncomfortable which is the main reason why I made this post to check if its normal that ppl talk to me like that. I'm doing better now ty

Amy22

@Mokke2011 no worries at all I just wanted to make sure that you are okay and safe right now too. I hear that what they were saying to you made you feel uncomfortable. I have got some experience of meeting people online myself who have been quite similar and they tend to act in a very flirty way. What I tend to do is if something is making me feel uncomfortable or ask me to do something I dont feel like doing I will be openly honest as possible with them and explain that I don't feel comfortable in doing so. No one should be forceful with you at all and it may sound like this is what they may have been doing. Again always best to double check in a way because I wouldent want anything bad to happen if you get me.

Mokke2011

Tysm! Personally I don't understand why ppl flirt with others on the first day of meeting them. I told them I was uncomfortable but they said they would do anything for me to share it which made me both feel bad and confused bc I think I am just a normal guy.