How do I stop snapping at people?

bignosegirly0

I’m autistic. I don’t know whether I have BPD or not. But it’s something I’ll ask my therapist.

I’m still on the waiting list to receive help.

Everyday, I feel hopeless about a problem that can’t be resolved.

My hopeless goes from extreme sadness to anger.

Then when someone annoys me, I yell at them.

Even my family say i sometimes go from bubbly and kind, to childish and aggressive in a second, with my language.

When I’m mad at someone, I yell at them to shut the fuck up.

How do I stop snapping at people?

shannon_164

hey @bignosegirly0 🙂

that sounds really tough to deal with, and i’m sorry you’re feeling so hopeless right now. it’s completely understandable that waiting for help makes things even harder.

please try not to be too hard on yourself - you’re dealing with a lot, and your emotions are valid. it sounds like your reactions come from a place of deep frustration and pain, not because you want to hurt anyone. recignising this pattern is already a huge step forward, and it shows how much you care about improving things.

one thing that might help is finding small ways to create a pause before reacting - like taking a deep breath, stepping away for a moment, or even squeezing something like a stress ball. it won’t fix everything overnight, but little by little, it can help give you a second to respond differently. since you’re already planning to talk to your therapist about bpd, maybe you could also ask about coping strategies for emotional regulation? ofc this might not be helpful, and that is ok if it’s not!

you’re not alone in this, we’re always here for you