I'm not sure if this is okay or not

Dudo

When I was 15 I met a guy online and he said he was 16 and the first day we would talk and he tried to turn the conversations sexual but I didn't pick up on it.

Then over the next few days we did stuff online that I consented to and in a weird way it kind of felt like we were dating, but then it started to make me feel uncomfortable and I kept making excuses not to talk to him but I never told him this.

Now though it makes me feel really bad when I see anything that reminds me of him or my experience with him and sometimes I cry about it but I'm really conflicted on why and if what happened was even wrong in some way.

shannon_164

hey @Dudo 🙂

i’m really sorry you’re feeling this way. it sounds like a really complicated and tough situation, and your feelings about it are completely valid.

from what you’ve described, it seems like there was a power imbalance, especially with him pushing the conversation in that direction so quickly, even if you consented at the time and it’s okay to look back and feel uncomfortable about it now. your feelings don’t have to fit into a clear ‘right or wrong’ box to be real and important - your feelings are so so valid.

if it is still affecting you a lot, maybe talking to someone you trust or a professional could help you process it? you are so so deserving of support! please don’t be hard on yourself, you were young, and none of this was your fault.

sending so much love your way