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Memories have been affecting my mood

Creativeboy23Creativeboy23 Posts: 301 The Mix Regular
edited February 8 in Health & Wellbeing



Various memories have been surfacing affecting my mood. A past therapist made a comment that brought up another memory where a crisis helpline worker told me I was being too hard on myself. The comment likely came from a lack of misunderstanding of autism which is a common experience but she assumed I was not recognising my strengths which felt like a personal attack. She made the remark after I shared how my autism struggles were affecting my mental health. She did not let me fully express myself, which led to her conclusion.

I have been thinking about how my friend refused to listen to me when I tried to express how my other friend’s comment made me feel, focusing only on the intention behind it. I have been thinking that she misinterpreted my words when speaking to him, which led to him defending her. Other people’s opinions do not determine my self worth. I am still worthy of love despite others comments, and I am not alone in my experiences, but these memories have been impacting my self-worth, making me feel isolated and singled out. It feels like they have moved on with their lives while still seeing me as a horrible person, although they may be missing my company. It feels like they will never realise that they were wrong, but I cannot be sure of that because I do not know what the future holds. They could realise that they were wrong and apologise.

I know that my feelings will always be valid but I have been thinking that others expect me to disregard my own perspective when they share theirs, just because their intention was positive. It has been making me feel unheard and isolated.

Some people do not seem to take my mental health seriously. I know they likely do not mean to come across that way. They want to help me feel better. However, when they suggest coping strategies for more complex issues, like not taking things personally, it can feel like they’re minimising my struggles.


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  • Laura_tigger82Laura_tigger82 Moderator Posts: 5,370 Part of The Furniture
    Good morning @Creativeboy23. I can hear how you have consistently not felt heard, even though you deserve to feel heard. You have made an important point though "other people’s opinions do not determine my self worth."

    Your feelings are valid but you do not deserve to have been made to feel this way. You are not alone. Your perspective is really important and what you think and feel is really important to us and so are you <3
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  • Creativeboy23Creativeboy23 Posts: 301 The Mix Regular

    Morning @Laura_tigger82,

    Thank you for your support. <3

  • Laura_tigger82Laura_tigger82 Moderator Posts: 5,370 Part of The Furniture
    You are welcome @Creativeboy23. How have you been this week? <3
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  • Creativeboy23Creativeboy23 Posts: 301 The Mix Regular
    edited February 21
    Hello @Laura_tigger82.

    I was not feeling good last week. I posted a thread about my emotional pain last Thursday, but I only received a reaction. While I know everyone is busy and responses can be delayed and appreciate getting a reaction, a lack of response has made me feel forgotten, ignored, and invisible.

    I want to share my feelings and feel validated. I am not looking for any solutions.
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