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Doubting myself
TheNightmare
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I’ve heard people say that life doesn’t always go as hoped, and I’ve heard it a few other times too, which has made me worry a bit because I have goals in life that I want to achieve. They’re not unrealistic goals, like becoming the next Cristiano Ronaldo, but hopes for a comfortable and nice lifestyle. I understand that some of these goals will be harder to achieve, like owning a house, but I’ve seen other people do it, so I think it’s possible for me too, and I know there’s help available. Some of my goals feel easier, like getting a decent car, maybe an SUV. I wouldn’t mind something a few years old, as cars last longer now, and I’d prefer to pay cash for it rather than get something new on finance. I don’t want to sound ungrateful—I just want a decent future. Having goals is good for my mental wellbeing. I’ve talked a lot about having a Mrs. It’s definitely something I want. I don’t think it’s unrealistic because not many people want to be alone. I want to settle down with a suitable woman and maybe eventually have a family. I also think it’s important to appreciate the basics in life, like having a roof over your head, food, clean water, and making ends meet. Those things are essential, and I’m grateful for them, but I also believe having extras, like hobbies and things that bring joy, is important for overall wellbeing and growth.
I don’t think any of my goals are unrealistic. Some are harder, but I believe I can achieve most of them, if not all. I’m putting in the effort toward my first goal, which is getting a job, and working toward the rest. I know these things won’t happen overnight. I’m not going to wake up with a nice car, my own house, and my Mrs. beside me right away. But with time, I believe my goals will come. I get that it’s a process, and I need patience. Recently, though, I’ve been doubting myself a little, and I worry about getting stuck in one place long-term and not moving forward. Right now, I want to get into work, but I don’t want that to be the end of the journey. I still have many other goals, and I want to experience different things along the way. I don’t think I’m asking for too much; I think it’s a good thing to want these goals, and I don’t feel like it’s too much at all.
I want to have things to look forward to long-term, not be stuck in a dull life or in a rut. I’ve felt stuck before, dealing with setbacks, stress, and low moods, and when I see others doing exciting things, it makes me want to do the same. But I want to do it for myself, not for anyone else. I just want to live a nice life for me.
I don’t think any of my goals are unrealistic. Some are harder, but I believe I can achieve most of them, if not all. I’m putting in the effort toward my first goal, which is getting a job, and working toward the rest. I know these things won’t happen overnight. I’m not going to wake up with a nice car, my own house, and my Mrs. beside me right away. But with time, I believe my goals will come. I get that it’s a process, and I need patience. Recently, though, I’ve been doubting myself a little, and I worry about getting stuck in one place long-term and not moving forward. Right now, I want to get into work, but I don’t want that to be the end of the journey. I still have many other goals, and I want to experience different things along the way. I don’t think I’m asking for too much; I think it’s a good thing to want these goals, and I don’t feel like it’s too much at all.
I want to have things to look forward to long-term, not be stuck in a dull life or in a rut. I’ve felt stuck before, dealing with setbacks, stress, and low moods, and when I see others doing exciting things, it makes me want to do the same. But I want to do it for myself, not for anyone else. I just want to live a nice life for me.
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@amy02 thanks so much also just seen that you're leaving so sad