Tips for long distance relationships?

Lola_G

Heyy, so I just saw my boyfriend today for the last time before we go to uni again. He goes to one that’s 2hrs away by train so I see him maybe every few weeks, so next time will maybe be Valentine’s Day. I just feel really lonely when I leave him or when he leaves, and he does of course miss me but I feel as though I feel the separation more heavily than he does.

I also have an anxious attachment style ( not confirmed but pretty sure I do) which I’m trying to fix and it’s gotten better recently I’d say but it still plays a part in the loneliness I feel and needing to see him.

So yeah, I was just wondering if anyone has any tips for dealing with the loneliness and also any ways of self care to make myself feel better with being alone. And of course long distance relationship in general! ❤️Thank you x


Also I’m still a little new here so I hope it’s okay I posted this on Health and wellbeing instead of Sex and Relationships?😭

Katie

Hey @Lola_G just popping in to say I've moved this over to the Sex and Relationships category for you It feels more fitting there and no worries about being new! It can take some getting used to but if there's anything we can help you with on using the boards just post on our Help Desk

sinead276

whilst i haven't been in a long distance relationship myself, i'd say the biggest thing in general is communicating how you feel, don't keep everything too bottled up as it typically leads to overthinking etc.

and i'd say if you've got hobbies or interests, try and dive into those a bit. not only will it be things you enjoy but also keep your mind off the fact you and him are distanced. and spend time with friends and fanily that love you too.

hope you're able to manage the distance and that you're doing okay
sending hugs

Riley_2001

@Lola_G
Hey. ☺️ Whilst I don’t have the experience, I’d say very open communication regarding any feelings is very important when it comes to long distance. Allow time on both sides for phone calls, maybe even sleep calls as they can bring massive comfort, FaceTime calls, things like that.

On the more emotional side of things, allow yourself to feel comfortable with being on your own, knowing that just because you aren’t in the same room that doesn’t take away his love or care for you. View the moon in the sky and remember that he can also see the same moon. Text each other often and express what you need and want. Distance and love can be a real challenge, though again, the distance doesn’t take away love, and that’s what important to remember. Knowing it’s not permanent and just for now as you both progress in life together.
It’s okay to feel lonely and feel his loss physically. That’s only natural for you. Be kind to yourself and discuss with him ways of having regular communication so you can hear his voice and see him.

I hope this helps. ☺️