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The mix contacting police

Summerjune15Summerjune15 Posts: 71 Budding Regular
in Health & Wellbeing
So @TheMix decided to call 101 and report a police officer that told me I deserved a beating for my behaviour about 3-4 years ago it has not affected me at all but I have to talk to the police about it now apparently so I’m freaking out which I thought themix wasn’t meant to freak you out it was to not freak you out but after this post I’m deleting my account does anyone know how to delete my account thanks👍🏻

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  • Lottie5433Lottie5433 Posts: 81 Budding Regular
    Hi summerjune,

    I know it can be scary when themix gets involved like this but they do it to ensure your safe but also that it won't happen to anyone else. Like yes it happened 3-4 years ago but it should have never happened.

    Themix and its community are always here to help and sometimes rhat does mean reachinf out to external people like 101 - usually they will contact you via email to say what they have done.

    I hope this experience doesn't deter you from gaining support from the community and that you are always welcome here
  • shannon_164shannon_164 Posts: 475 Listening Ear
    @Summerjune15 hey, i totally understand how you’re feeling as having other services such as the police being involved isn’t always necessarily a pleasant experience!! i’m not 100% sure but would imagine that it could be in relation to someone in a position of trust saying about hurting someone - however, i don’t obviously know for sure, i just know that if you are at risk of being hurt by yourself or someone in a position of trust or for legal reasons eg a court case then confidentially has to be broken.

    if you are wanting to delete your account you should send a message to @TheMix and advise them that you would like your account deleted - i think!

    i hope you’re ok and please know that how you are feeling is so so valid!! sending so much love your way🩷
  • Summerjune15Summerjune15 Posts: 71 Budding Regular
    I just really really can’t talk to the police I really can’t like if they told the police without mentioning me then that would be fine but I think they did mention me I don’t know if they did or not
  • shannon_164shannon_164 Posts: 475 Listening Ear
    @Summerjune15 thats understandable that you think talking to the police is scary, but just remember you haven’t done anything wrong!! we’re all here for you🩷
  • Summerjune15Summerjune15 Posts: 71 Budding Regular
    I’m not talking to the police do you really think I’ll have to talk to the police will they come to my house etc
  • shannon_164shannon_164 Posts: 475 Listening Ear
    @Summerjune15 i can’t for sure say what’s going to happen - did the mix inform you that they had to share what you said and explain any of what might happen? i know you said that you’ll have to talk to the police now apparently, did whoever tell you about potentially talking to them have any more info about it maybe?
  • Summerjune15Summerjune15 Posts: 71 Budding Regular
    It’s freaking me out more than I have no clue what’s going on etc but how do they know my address etc personal details
  • Summerjune15Summerjune15 Posts: 71 Budding Regular
    No one said anything about talking to the police they just said they have to let 101 informed and it will be investigated
  • shannon_164shannon_164 Posts: 475 Listening Ear
    @Summerjune15 i hear you🩷

    i know from my experience of volunteering with shout that when someone is unwilling to give their information or has ended the conversation but is at risk that supervisors / safeguarding can work with emergency services to locate the person to make sure they get the help they need - i don’t know exactly how it’s done unfortunately though - i would imagine the mix would be a super similar process though with the merger happening! i hope that’s of some help to you:)
  • Summerjune15Summerjune15 Posts: 71 Budding Regular
    But if it was years ago why do I have to have police at my house why can’t they just tell 101 without getting me involved
  • Summerjune15Summerjune15 Posts: 71 Budding Regular
    This is what they said “Hey @Summerjune15 , this is here. Thank you for your message, and we respect that you do not feel comfortable sharing any further information. That is valid, and we see where you're coming from.

    Because the male police officer is in a Position of Trust (a legal term to describe a role where a person has regular and direct contact with children, and/ or a duty of care for others), we are obliged to report his behaviour to non-emmergency services (non-emmergency services are the police 101 department, not 999. So they may investigate the male police officer's conduct in their own time). This is to help ensure that any other people who come into contact with police are recieving the safest possible treatment, and to advocate for the best standards of care. I'd like to reassure you that you are not in any trouble in the slightest, nor have you done anything wrong.

    We recognise this may feel difficult, and are here if you do have any questions you'd like to ask <3 “ so maybe that means I don’t have to talk to the police she didn’t say if I had to or not but I pray they don’t come to my house
  • shannon_164shannon_164 Posts: 475 Listening Ear
    @Summerjune15 i get what you mean for sure and i would say that you would be best to ask the mix staff team more about it as they would be in a much better position to help you than what i am obviously!! always here for you though🩷
  • Summerjune15Summerjune15 Posts: 71 Budding Regular
    I have messaged them don’t worry they just haven’t gotten back to me it’s been 3 hours since I messaged them but I did see that they aren’t monitored or something like that on weekends so what if the police come before Monday I should have a say if I want to be involved
  • shannon_164shannon_164 Posts: 475 Listening Ear
    @Summerjune15 i hear you - i would imagine that they would get back to you before monday as they usually reply within a day or so! i’m wondering if you would be able to email them? you could set the email’s importance to ‘urgent’ so it might be seen quicker, that could maybe be an option for you?
  • Summerjune15Summerjune15 Posts: 71 Budding Regular
    My friend did just message me saying that sometimes an investigation doesn’t have to involve someone so hopefully that’s the case for me too
  • FaolanFaolan Posts: 114 The Mix Convert
    edited January 17
    Summerjune15 wrote: »
    My friend did just message me saying that sometimes an investigation doesn’t have to involve someone so hopefully that’s the case for me too

    You don’t have to tell the police anything if you don’t want to. If they turn up, just say that you don’t want to report the incident. This post will prob get deleted but it’s ridiculous they reported it on your behalf when it happened years ago as if you don’t have a say in what happens. This new confidentiality policy is mad😂
  • AnonymousToeAnonymousToe Posts: 2,510 Boards Guru
    Omg that sounds so stressful, I’m so sorry
  • shannon_164shannon_164 Posts: 475 Listening Ear

    Faolan wrote: »
    Summerjune15 wrote: »
    My friend did just message me saying that sometimes an investigation doesn’t have to involve someone so hopefully that’s the case for me too

    You don’t have to tell the police anything if you don’t want to. If they turn up, just say that you don’t want to report the incident. This post will prob get deleted but it’s ridiculous they reported it on your behalf when it happened years ago as if you don’t have a say in what happens. This new confidentiality policy is mad😂

    forreal😭the new confidentiality policy puts me off sm!!
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