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Struggling alone
TheNightmare
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I’ve realized that whenever I struggle, I don’t tell anyone in real life. I’ve had times when I’ve struggled a lot or felt overwhelmed, but I usually hide it. This happens pretty much all the time. I think people would say I haven’t struggled, but I actually have. There have been a few times when I’ve talked about feeling stressed, like a failure, or about major setbacks, such as when the forklift training course didn’t work out. I think people may have known it wouldn’t be that easy, especially considering that I had focused on it as a potential career and then it didn’t work out. Sometimes I feel like I need someone online, like a support service, who I don’t personally know, and who isn’t judgmental. If I struggle or have something on my mind, I use here to express it, which is why I keep posting. If I get judged, it can top me off, and I could end up feeling even worse.
I can be sensitive about topics I struggle with, such as work and my progress with job hunting. If someone says the wrong thing, doubts me, says I won’t get a job, or compares themselves or someone else to me, it can put me down. Sometimes I can feel angry or overthink the comments and other negative emotions. Over the years, experiencing low mood has made me a bit more sensitive in general at times. Being previously dismissed can cause all of this.
I can be sensitive about topics I struggle with, such as work and my progress with job hunting. If someone says the wrong thing, doubts me, says I won’t get a job, or compares themselves or someone else to me, it can put me down. Sometimes I can feel angry or overthink the comments and other negative emotions. Over the years, experiencing low mood has made me a bit more sensitive in general at times. Being previously dismissed can cause all of this.
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I wonder what your experiences have been like in the past of opening up to people in-person? How have they responded and what's that been like for you?
Is there anyone specific in your life who you could imagine yourself sharing more with? Or someone you wish you could talk to more freely like that?
Sending hugs
I'm really sorry you feel alone. Loneliness is painful, and struggling alone can feel overwhelming. If there is one person who can be a trusted friend, it can make a difference. If you haven't got that person now, it doesn't mean it will always be that way. True friends are out there- though sometimes it takes time and caution to find them.
It's really tough to feel like you're facing everything alone, and it's completely valid to feel the way you do. Sometimes, being without someone to talk to can make us feel isolated, but please remember that you are not alone in your experiences, even if it feels that way right now. There are so many of us who have struggled with similar feelings.
Keep talking to us
Cheers, really appreciate it
@Sian321 thanks so much for replying to me too. I have had people maybe say to sto feeling sorry for myself, ignored me, judged me, doubted me etc. There's not really anyone I'd wish I'd want to talk more freely about stuff, I think sometimes it can help someone to talk to who you don't know I think to be private a bit. Thanks so much again anyway.
@Alwayshope2day thanks a lot and what you're saying is true like I was going to say in my original thread that venting here is good like previously I might only post not as often but I've noticed the past months I've used it a lot more as like a journal type of thing, I'm really grateful for it. Thanks again for replying to me too