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Struggling alone

TheNightmareTheNightmare Posts: 2,468 Boards Champion
I’ve realized that whenever I struggle, I don’t tell anyone in real life. I’ve had times when I’ve struggled a lot or felt overwhelmed, but I usually hide it. This happens pretty much all the time. I think people would say I haven’t struggled, but I actually have. There have been a few times when I’ve talked about feeling stressed, like a failure, or about major setbacks, such as when the forklift training course didn’t work out. I think people may have known it wouldn’t be that easy, especially considering that I had focused on it as a potential career and then it didn’t work out. Sometimes I feel like I need someone online, like a support service, who I don’t personally know, and who isn’t judgmental. If I struggle or have something on my mind, I use here to express it, which is why I keep posting. If I get judged, it can top me off, and I could end up feeling even worse.


I can be sensitive about topics I struggle with, such as work and my progress with job hunting. If someone says the wrong thing, doubts me, says I won’t get a job, or compares themselves or someone else to me, it can put me down. Sometimes I can feel angry or overthink the comments and other negative emotions. Over the years, experiencing low mood has made me a bit more sensitive in general at times. Being previously dismissed can cause all of this.

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  • stardust444stardust444 Posts: 86 Budding Regular
    @TheNightmare im so sorry you’ve been feeling this and i promise all your feelings are valid. i know it can be very hard to open up sometimes and that’s why it’s so good that you managed to write this and let us know how you’ve been feeling. i can definitely relate to the feeling of being ‘too’ sensitive and feeling dismissed but know that it’s not your fault and it’s not a bad thing at all and people shouldn’t make you feel like it is. i am here for you❤️
  • Sian321Sian321 Moderator, Staff Posts: 130 The Mix Convert
    edited November 10
    Hey @TheNightmare , thanks so much for this post. It sounds like you're really noticing something about yourself there - how when you're struggling, your impulse is to tell people online rather than in-person. That is so valid, and I'm really glad that you have found this space to open up. I can't imagine you're alone in feeling that way, and fear of judgement can be really difficult.

    I wonder what your experiences have been like in the past of opening up to people in-person? How have they responded and what's that been like for you?

    Is there anyone specific in your life who you could imagine yourself sharing more with? Or someone you wish you could talk to more freely like that?

    Sending hugs <3
  • Alwayshope2dayAlwayshope2day Posts: 29 Boards Initiate
    @TheNightmare None of us are meant to be an island, and talking to us is a good way to process difficult times. Ideally all of us would love to say we have 100s of friends we can talk to, but I myself find that only few can be trusted with vulnerabilities. To be honest, I think we all struggle: every person on the planet, otherwise, they'd be living a life with zero challenges- and I just don't think that's real life.

    I'm really sorry you feel alone. Loneliness is painful, and struggling alone can feel overwhelming. If there is one person who can be a trusted friend, it can make a difference. If you haven't got that person now, it doesn't mean it will always be that way. True friends are out there- though sometimes it takes time and caution to find them.

    It's really tough to feel like you're facing everything alone, and it's completely valid to feel the way you do. Sometimes, being without someone to talk to can make us feel isolated, but please remember that you are not alone in your experiences, even if it feels that way right now. There are so many of us who have struggled with similar feelings.

    Keep talking to us :)) That's one way to do it, and you'll find many people manage it the same way. Then maybe later on there will be someone offline you feel you want to talk to too. Regardless, we're here for you :)
  • TheNightmareTheNightmare Posts: 2,468 Boards Champion
    @TheNightmare im so sorry you’ve been feeling this and i promise all your feelings are valid. i know it can be very hard to open up sometimes and that’s why it’s so good that you managed to write this and let us know how you’ve been feeling. i can definitely relate to the feeling of being ‘too’ sensitive and feeling dismissed but know that it’s not your fault and it’s not a bad thing at all and people shouldn’t make you feel like it is. i am here for you❤️

    Cheers, really appreciate it
  • TheNightmareTheNightmare Posts: 2,468 Boards Champion
    edited November 10
    Sian321 wrote: »
    Hey @TheNightmare , thanks so much for this post. It sounds like you're really noticing something about yourself there - how when you're struggling, your impulse is to tell people online rather than in-person. That is so valid, and I'm really glad that you have found this space to open up. I can't imagine you're alone in feeling that way, and fear of judgement can be really difficult.

    I wonder what your experiences have been like in the past of opening up to people in-person? How have they responded and what's that been like for you?

    Is there anyone specific in your life who you could imagine yourself sharing more with? Or someone you wish you could talk to more freely like that?

    Sending hugs <3

    @Sian321 thanks so much for replying to me too. I have had people maybe say to sto feeling sorry for myself, ignored me, judged me, doubted me etc. There's not really anyone I'd wish I'd want to talk more freely about stuff, I think sometimes it can help someone to talk to who you don't know I think to be private a bit. Thanks so much again anyway.
  • TheNightmareTheNightmare Posts: 2,468 Boards Champion
    @TheNightmare None of us are meant to be an island, and talking to us is a good way to process difficult times. Ideally all of us would love to say we have 100s of friends we can talk to, but I myself find that only few can be trusted with vulnerabilities. To be honest, I think we all struggle: every person on the planet, otherwise, they'd be living a life with zero challenges- and I just don't think that's real life.

    I'm really sorry you feel alone. Loneliness is painful, and struggling alone can feel overwhelming. If there is one person who can be a trusted friend, it can make a difference. If you haven't got that person now, it doesn't mean it will always be that way. True friends are out there- though sometimes it takes time and caution to find them.

    It's really tough to feel like you're facing everything alone, and it's completely valid to feel the way you do. Sometimes, being without someone to talk to can make us feel isolated, but please remember that you are not alone in your experiences, even if it feels that way right now. There are so many of us who have struggled with similar feelings.

    Keep talking to us :)) That's one way to do it, and you'll find many people manage it the same way. Then maybe later on there will be someone offline you feel you want to talk to too. Regardless, we're here for you :)

    @Alwayshope2day thanks a lot and what you're saying is true like I was going to say in my original thread that venting here is good like previously I might only post not as often but I've noticed the past months I've used it a lot more as like a journal type of thing, I'm really grateful for it. Thanks again for replying to me too
  • Alwayshope2dayAlwayshope2day Posts: 29 Boards Initiate
    @The Nightmare you're very welcome. I'm glad this is a helpful space for you. I hope it continues to be a place where you feel the freedom to voice your thoughts and be heard <3
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