My real mum

River

So basically yesterday I started contact with my older brothers and now I’ve been talking to my mum, my real one

Gemma

This is a big step @Rose113 - how has the contact with your mum been going? We're here to listen.

River

@Gemma nothing mum is saying is making sense, my eldest brother is telling me a different story that is more related to what I know

I can’t go into detail on here because of guidelines but nothing is adding up

River

I’ve been talking to mum all morning and it’s going well I told her about my sh and she told me she will support me and she said that now things should get better now I have a family that loves and cares about me.

Bad side

TW// greif and how it happened

I asked about my half brother that I know about and apparently he passed away last year from a car crash, I saw a picture of him, I feel like I seen him before

Gemma

Hey @Rose113, I'm glad to hear things are going well - you really do deserve to have so much love and support around you.

How did it make you feel hearing your mum say that she will support you with what you're going through?

I'm so sorry to hear about your brother. I can imagine this must be really difficult to process having been distanced from him too. How are you holding up after receiving that news?

River

@Gemma at first yesterday I regretted it so much and wanted to erase making contact but actually it’s going pretty good. My friend oldest brother said to take mum as a pinch of salt whatever that means. Mum said social services made it all up?

It felt good and she’s said she loves me multiple times which is more than I get from my current parent

I don’t know, I didn’t really know him but I’d of kinda wanted to meet him one day kinda like I wanted to meet dad

River

I haven’t told any of my current family that I’ve done this, been doing this on my own. It makes me feel guilty but at the same time a couple of years ago my current parent made it clear that she didn’t want anything to do with and said that if I ever met her she would drive but would drop me off and leave so surely it’s my right to do this especially now I’m 18?

Laura_tigger82

I can hear the conflicting feelings @Rose113. Your feelings and thoughts are valid here. As you said, now you are 18, you should have a sense of control as well. Do you feel able to talk to them about wanting to do this?

River

@Laura_tigger82 theyd just make it a massive fuss and I just didn’t want the stress because it’s not a big deal and I don’t want them making it a big deal yk what I mean

Orchid059

That's understandable why you think that @Rose113. Families can be complicated and if you feel like this is an easier way of going about it that's completely okay, especially when its so fresh and new still. With time and getting to know your biological mum a bit more, you can decide whether you want to make them aware of the situation. It's completely up to you.

River

I’m loving being a little sister hahaha

River

I have more pictures of little me 😅

River

Mum said I gang up on my brothers like I used too i don’t notice it

River

Apparently I used to say Bastardo when I was 3 because I heared bastard from dad 😂😂

Sian321

Hey @Rose113 , just wanted to jump on here to say thanks so much for sharing this with us. That's so beautiful that through connecting with your mum you're also getting to learn more about yourself, what you were like as a child, and even see photos of little you - how cute!

Sending lots of hugs and hope you can be super kind to yourself these next few days esspecially as I can imagine it's a lot to wrap your head around and to re-configure.

Really happy we can be here alongside you

River

@Sian321 wanna know something funny

When I was 3 apparently I heared dad call someone a bastard and then I ran around calling everyone a bastardo

Lucy_21

I'm so happy for you right now bestie 💖💖xx

ebyrne556

Thats a huge step @Rose113 we are all so so proud of you and so happy to hear things are going well
Be gentle with yourself and sending hugs your amazing

River

Thank you @ebyrne556