Starting uni (so lonely) 😭

AnonymousToe

I don’t know why I ever thought I could cope with this. I feel completely abandoned. I’ve been left to fend for myself and I don’t know how to do anything. Nothing has even started yet but I just want to go home 😭 sure it’s nice to have some space here but it doesn’t feel like home. Home is packed full of stuff and it has people who love me. This place is soulless. I’ve decorated the room but it’s just not the same without my mum’s endless things. Never thought I’d say that 😭😂 I feel so mean for leaving the kitty behind too. I won’t be gone the whole time, I’ll go home for the holidays and stuff but 3 years is a really long time to be all alone. The uni closest to home doesn’t do my subject and I want to at least go somewhere that ranks decently for it but I really just wish I’d stayed at home. I chose this and it hurts SO MUCH. I spend a lot of my time alone upstairs at home anyway but you know, someone will call me down for dinner eventually. Now it’s down to me to make dinner, even when all I want to do is cry. I feel so pathetic, everyone else seems to be coping just fine, and I’m a year older than a lot of them. But I feel far too young for this. I know this is a great experience to grow up and prove to myself and everyone else that I can do things, but right now all I want is a hug 😭😭😭 and to sleep in my own bed. I can’t even begin to process the fact that I’m gonna be here for months. This isn’t just a silly little holiday or a trip. This is my life now. And I don’t like it. I want to go home.

eylah

so proud of you your going to do amazing i’m here if you need anything. hugs 🫂

OceanDreaming

I’m so sorry you’re struggling so much, but to some extent I think this is normal as a lot of my friends last year told me they felt exactly the same way. I haven’t even arrived yet (I’m leaving today!!!) but I have no doubt that it will be so scary and strange at first. Obviously I can’t give you advice based on my own experience just yet, but take it slow and go one moment at a time. Text your family if you can about anything at all, just to hear them respond! Maybe focus on cooking some easy food and keeping some snacks in your room so at the very least you can eat something. Talking more on here could help too with feeling less alone. I’m sending you massive virtual hugs!! Remember that it’s completely valid to struggle at first but over time things will slowly get a little better.

AnonymousToe

Thank you so much @OceanDreaming and good luck with starting uni yourself

AnonymousToe

I can’t do this for weeks 😭 this is my life now and I just want to go home

Lilly_101

You’re doing amazing, it will work itself out and if it doesn’t then it’s not the right place for you. It’s hard to start anew so just be kind to yourself and stay strong.

JsT

I remember feeling the same when I started university many years ago. You will eventually meet people and make friends. It will start to feel like home. Stick with it if you can.

AnonymousToe

What happens if I can’t do it? All I do is cry, I don’t know how I’m gonna keep up when lectures start. This is so awful 😭😭😭

sinead276

like the others have said - whilst everything feels overwhelming and a lot, it will start to feel like a new normal probably quicker than you think. chances are everyone else is in the same boat. there will be others feeling exactly the same way as you do. try and take it a day at a time - you've got this!!!

sending hugs