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eylaheylah Posts: 4,440 Community Veteran
in Health & Wellbeing
hi. so idk what to say but. last night was really hard for me and basically police was called. i contacted a helpline as i was feeling unssfe and i left group chat as i know that was not the place for me and it isnt crisis. so i did go for the walk but. it ended badly. i didng know police called so was shocked when they told me to stop. i had a panic attack and. they lied to me saying that the van was needed and only van avalieble at the time. but with me was. 2 vans 2cars. so they lied ro me to get me in the van. they know that causs me distress. i had told them i sh but they laughed at me. i didnt want them putting their hands on me so i got in the van but. they were rly horrible. i got home early morning today. but my dad was askeep at time so police woke him up. he wasnt happy and we are on bad terms now. but i am feeling upset with how i was treated. i hatw it. i didnt deserve that. im safe now. it is hard for me atm. :(. sry if i caused concern this morning. im sry.
keep your face always toward the sunshine and shadows will fall behind you. 🤍

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  • ellie2000ellie2000 Posts: 4,293 Community Veteran
    edited July 11
    @eylah Police telling u to stop isn't gd, they're supposed to reassure u n make sure u r comfortable b4 the leave. Unfortunately u encounter some badons. Ppl r worried if u post something online, its there online forever
    Wen I did online tlk about putting myself in a unsafe situation. They came 5hrs later, 5:30 in the morning hammering on the door. The made me comfortable n left n then I fone samaritans. I tlkd about the positives things in the future. And then the cat came down.
    Some police put the ones feeling vulnerable down and some show sympathy n help
    Crazy mad insane
  • Amy22Amy22 Posts: 4,783 The Mix Elder
    Im sorry to hear that you went through that experience recently @eylah I know sometimes when someone is in a crisis situation or someone may feel like the person is unsafe, sometimes they will send normally a police car over just to check in with the person and do a welfare check. I can imagine that though being very terifying especially if they did turn up with a full police van than just a car and an officer. It sounds like both the officers didn't have a good understanding of your situation and that sounds horrible to encounter and go through. Im not the best of advice with this personally but I will say the officers should have taken things more carefully and should have been more gentle and patient with you rather than laughing at you especially when you were having an anxiety attack as well. I hope you doing ok at the moment and I am always here if you do ever need someone to talk to <3.

    Sending hugs,

    Amy22 <3
    Just a person who likes pop culture and films
  • eylaheylah Posts: 4,440 Community Veteran
    ellie2000 wrote: »
    @eylah Police telling u to stop isn't gd, they're supposed to reassure u n make sure u r comfortable b4 the leave. Unfortunately u encounter some badons. Ppl r worried if u post something online, its there online forever
    Wen I did online tlk about putting myself in a unsafe situation. They came 5hrs later, 5:30 in the morning hammering on the door. The made me comfortable n left n then I fone samaritans. I tlkd about the positives things in the future. And then the cat came down.
    Some police put the ones feeling vulnerable down and some show sympathy n help

    it wasnt online. i spoke to a helpline. who called police due to safety. sry you went through that. hugs. <3
    keep your face always toward the sunshine and shadows will fall behind you. 🤍
  • eylaheylah Posts: 4,440 Community Veteran
    Amy22 wrote: »
    Im sorry to hear that you went through that experience recently @eylah I know sometimes when someone is in a crisis situation or someone may feel like the person is unsafe, sometimes they will send normally a police car over just to check in with the person and do a welfare check. I can imagine that though being very terifying especially if they did turn up with a full police van than just a car and an officer. It sounds like both the officers didn't have a good understanding of your situation and that sounds horrible to encounter and go through. Im not the best of advice with this personally but I will say the officers should have taken things more carefully and should have been more gentle and patient with you rather than laughing at you especially when you were having an anxiety attack as well. I hope you doing ok at the moment and I am always here if you do ever need someone to talk to <3.

    Sending hugs,

    Amy22 <3

    thank you amy. im scared to contact a helpline. as i dont want them cslling police. police scare me and that made it worse. i dont like it. feel awful. but im ok. thank you. <3
    keep your face always toward the sunshine and shadows will fall behind you. 🤍
  • ellaella Community Manager Posts: 267 The Mix Regular
    I'm so sorry to hear you had such a difficult night on Wednesday. How are you doing now @eylah? It sounds like things got really scary and overwhelming for you, and it's completely understandable that you're feeling upset about everything that happened. No one deserves to be treated the way you described, and you did the right thing by reaching out for help when you felt unsafe.

    To be honest, the situation with the police sounds awful and handled really poorly. It's completely unacceptable that they lied to you and made things worse when they knew you were already in distress and struggling. You have every right to be angry about that. There are actually ways to make a formal complaint about their behaviour, and I can help you look into that if you'd like?

    If you're worried about using a helpline again, that's completely understandable. It's important to find one that makes you feel safe and comfortable. Many helplines offer confidential services, which means they won't share your information with anyone, including the police, unless you're in immediate danger of hurting yourself or someone else. If you’re concerned about using the helpline again, it might be worth asking how much is safe to share before things are escalated to the way they were on this occasion? Does that all feel comfy for you? <3
  • eylaheylah Posts: 4,440 Community Veteran
    hi. @ella . ik my local police department very well. so ill be emailing them with the pc number. it upset me bc that officer helped me jn past. abd now he was rude. i had him and another officee with me. then a massive riot van turned up behind me. and two guys stood behind me. i felt awdul. i went home to dad and cried. i was wanting help. but got nothing but horribleness. i didnt deserve that. im ok. feeling unwell todsay. feel sick. it was childline who called them. thank you. <3
    keep your face always toward the sunshine and shadows will fall behind you. 🤍
  • ellie2000ellie2000 Posts: 4,293 Community Veteran
    edited July 13
    eylah wrote: »
    ellie2000 wrote: »
    @eylah Police telling u to stop isn't gd, they're supposed to reassure u n make sure u r comfortable b4 the leave. Unfortunately u encounter some badons. Ppl r worried if u post something online, its there online forever
    Wen I did online tlk about putting myself in a unsafe situation. They came 5hrs later, 5:30 in the morning hammering on the door. The made me comfortable n left n then I fone samaritans. I tlkd about the positives things in the future. And then the cat came down.
    Some police put the ones feeling vulnerable down and some show sympathy n help

    it wasnt online. i spoke to a helpline. who called police due to safety. sry you went through that. hugs. <3

    Themix said they had to 😀 nd tht got things moving quickly. 😀 it got people around me to get motivated
    Crazy mad insane
  • eylaheylah Posts: 4,440 Community Veteran
    ellie2000 wrote: »
    eylah wrote: »
    ellie2000 wrote: »
    @eylah Police telling u to stop isn't gd, they're supposed to reassure u n make sure u r comfortable b4 the leave. Unfortunately u encounter some badons. Ppl r worried if u post something online, its there online forever
    Wen I did online tlk about putting myself in a unsafe situation. They came 5hrs later, 5:30 in the morning hammering on the door. The made me comfortable n left n then I fone samaritans. I tlkd about the positives things in the future. And then the cat came down.
    Some police put the ones feeling vulnerable down and some show sympathy n help

    it wasnt online. i spoke to a helpline. who called police due to safety. sry you went through that. hugs. <3

    Themix said they had to 😀 nd tht got things moving quickly. 😀 it got people around me to get motivated

    hugs ellie. hope ur ok. <3
    keep your face always toward the sunshine and shadows will fall behind you. 🤍
  • Laura_tigger82Laura_tigger82 Moderator Posts: 5,299 Part of The Furniture
    Thinking of you @eylah. I can hear you have been going through a difficult time and you have also been feeling unwell through this difficult time. How have you been coping since? <3
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  • jayne26jayne26 Moderator Posts: 47 Boards Initiate
    Hi @eylah so sorry that you went through that, it must've been really scary. I'm glad to hear that you know you didn't deserve to be treated that way. Have things improved since? <3
  • eylaheylah Posts: 4,440 Community Veteran
    Laura_tigger82 wrote: »
    Thinking of you @eylah. I can hear you have been going through a difficult time and you have also been feeling unwell through this difficult time. How have you been coping since? <3

    not gd. struggling to regulate myself atm. but doing my best. <3
    jayne26 wrote: »
    Hi @eylah so sorry that you went through that, it must've been really scary. I'm glad to hear that you know you didn't deserve to be treated that way. Have things improved since? <3

    with police.? they was nice once few days ago. they are public service. sgould be treated with jindess.
    keep your face always toward the sunshine and shadows will fall behind you. 🤍
  • amy02amy02 Moderator Posts: 330 The Mix Regular
    Hi @eylah sorry to hear you're struggling at the moment. You're doing so so well for reaching out to us and sharing what must have been a scary and distressing situation. You're right, you should be treated with kindness and not in the way that they did.
    Well done for trying your best and staying safe, remember we are all here to support you and you're not alone in this <3
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