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Why I'm a failure
TheNightmare
Posts: 1,754 Extreme Poster
I failed academically in school.
I failed at forklift driving.
I'm in my 20s and not working yet.
No girlfriend and never been in a relationship.
Still a virgin.
Not many friends.
I'm lazy.
Not good at anything.
And there are probably many more.
It's just that most of my friends and other people are doing better than me: they have careers ahead and are doing better than me, and I'm just here failing. I do have goals I would like to achieve, but I feel like I will never achieve them.
I think I am trying hard to get into work; it's just stressful. I think once I get into work, some things I don't have will hopefully just fall into place a bit. I've been struggling with this for a very long time, I find it hard to speak out like go GP or speak to people in person or anything so that's why I have to post on here all the time.
I failed at forklift driving.
I'm in my 20s and not working yet.
No girlfriend and never been in a relationship.
Still a virgin.
Not many friends.
I'm lazy.
Not good at anything.
And there are probably many more.
It's just that most of my friends and other people are doing better than me: they have careers ahead and are doing better than me, and I'm just here failing. I do have goals I would like to achieve, but I feel like I will never achieve them.
I think I am trying hard to get into work; it's just stressful. I think once I get into work, some things I don't have will hopefully just fall into place a bit. I've been struggling with this for a very long time, I find it hard to speak out like go GP or speak to people in person or anything so that's why I have to post on here all the time.
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But even though you didn't manage to pass at some things, that could just mean you haven't found the *thing* that's for you! You could honestly be one more job application away from landing your dream job, and you could be so close to a horizon of opportunities opening up to you. And it might not mean much coming from me, but each time we have had a discussion on here you have been very articulate, and in no way does it come across as if you are unintelligent or a failure.
I hope you don't mind, but I wanted to give you an alternative perspective on something. You said that you hadn't ever been in a relationship, but I don't think that is bad at all. I think there is a huge proportion of women that would rather a man to have never been in one, than to have tonnes of experience. I know that you might have been talking about it in terms of the loneliness that comes with being single, but perhaps that will be a beneficial when you do get a partner- and it will be a healthier relationship as a result. Many women will even prefer that you are a virgin, as it means that they won't have to feel any jealousy, but also it suggests that you are a loyal man that doesn't just have sex with anyone that he lays his eyes on- and that is such a noble quality to have these days.
And I know how stressful it is for you right now, but remember that no one ever became strong and resilient by having an easy life.
@willowtrees hi, you have been very supportive on a few of my threads and I really appreciate it so was thinking if you don't mind if we can pm about things but fine if you don't want. I appreciate it either way.