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I need a hug (v2.0) 💚
JustV
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Howdy mixers! Yes, the mod team has made the decision to start this thread afresh.
The OG hugs thread had become quite heavy and we were seeing more and more crisis posting in there. That's nobody's fault - more people are in crisis more often these days and that's a trend we're seeing far outside of this community. It's just the reality of life for a lot of folks at the moment.
As moderators, we want to make sure the hugs thread stays constructive. So we want to have a reset, go over what this thread is and isn't for, and be clear about the boundaries.
So, please keep these things in mind before posting:
This thread is for:
This thread is not:
To quote the original hugs thread:
📝 Want a more structured space to share? Try the journalling thread.
The OG hugs thread had become quite heavy and we were seeing more and more crisis posting in there. That's nobody's fault - more people are in crisis more often these days and that's a trend we're seeing far outside of this community. It's just the reality of life for a lot of folks at the moment.
As moderators, we want to make sure the hugs thread stays constructive. So we want to have a reset, go over what this thread is and isn't for, and be clear about the boundaries.
So, please keep these things in mind before posting:
This thread is for:
- Finding someone to relate to
- Light words of support and virtual hugs
- When you don't want a full response
This thread is not:
- A substitute to creating your own thread (please do this if you need advice or a response!)
- Somewhere to post in crisis, even in vague terms (if you feel in crisis, seek urgent help)
- For yelling into the void (try the ranty thread for that)
To quote the original hugs thread:
--FrankiPanda wrote:This is more for (quoting the lovely Arctic Roll) "the times where people don't want advice, they just want somebody to know".
📝 Want a more structured space to share? Try the journalling thread.
The truth resists simplicity.
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Also, 'fault' implies that something bad has happened, but it really hasn't. The original hugs thread was really old and would have needed a reboot sooner or later anyways.
You haven't done anything wrong - the culture of any ongoing thread changes naturally over time, and one person is rarely the reason for that. A lot of folks had been using the old hugs thread to post heavier stuff or use it as a kind of diary. If that resonates with you then I can understand why it might feel like you caused it, but this was definitely a longer term, broader trend.
You`ve got to love the way that these sorts of people destroy your confidence and make you feel like shit. Do people just not get it?
"The way that I have found the light in my life is through the expressive arts because I know that I will be accepted for the way I am." ~ Me
"I'm going to get strong again and see you soon. " ~ Anonymous
Its fine, I'm not really a great person when you get to meet me. My nan is that good at the moment so my mum had to secrectly film her just in case we need to show doctors because when she is in pain she masks her pain. I watched the video and I dont know why but I shoulden't have smiled or smirked I don't know maybe and part of me coulden't watch the video a bit. *sigh* anyways enough of me ranting
Sending you lots of strength and hugs, we're all here to support you through this.
Do you feel able to reach out to Crisis Messenger or Samaritans for some additional support today?