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I just wanted to share the Facebook page called “children of hoarders”
I’ve had a read through of what they share and their quotes like “safe parents don’t bury their children alive” - think meaning with objects ect. And like safe parents should care more about their child than objects and it validated things for me. I don’t know even just the fact they call it abuse cause my mum would gaslight me into thinking it’s not or would blame me. And reading the stuff on their helped me. I’ll share some of the stuff that was insightful to me some how and maybe help you
And remember you do deserve better. 🫶🏻
Hi @AnonymousToe sorry if i wasn't very clear. I just wanted to make sure you felt safe in the house because you mentioned in a previous post that you just wanted to get out.
We are here to talk through anything that has been on your mind
I just want someone to be a mother to me.
Or would that maybe make the situation worse? You know your mum best so just a suggestion in case you hadn't thought of it
Seems to me like she scapegoats you as a way to escape her own shame about her hoarding and the fact it's had such a major impact on you and your sister's lives. And that you've been burdened with the responsibility of ensuring your sister doesn't get taken away from home, and fearing for your family's safety - no one should have to shoulder that The fact you had to live with that fear and secrecy as a child is heartbreaking to me Sounds like it's got in the way (literally and metaphorically) of so many aspects of your family life, and your mother can't or won't face that fact and therefore denies what is clearly the case.
Is there anyone you can talk to about it who you can trust not to let your parents know? If you can explain to them the problem and the pressure you're under not to tell people, and why? Just seems like you could really do with someone to talk to, and who might be able to advise you a bit or point you in the direction of more support. It's so much to be dealing with on your own Or have you tried any helplines maybe? I know talking on the phone can be really hard when you have social anxiety though...
You may know this already but when you start Uni there will be support services you can access through them, I don't know to what extent but you can probably find out through their website, if that helps at all?
I'm really sorry you're having to cope with this, you're doing really well!
but let this sink in
you do not have to fight by yourself
~ lyrics from Willow by The Little Unsaid
we wonr abdadon you. yoj got us. sry idk what to say. but here for you.
I’ve had the same pain from having to sit on the floor for 3 weeks now.
why. . im so sry.