Family

ellie2000

Is a step gma family? the reason I ask is coz she doesn't hav no filter. She ruined Xmas by regurgitating venison In a bottom belch wen it was bought special. She p*sses off family but they don't say coz she hate being in the wrong.
She said grace twice in one dinner. Nd she shouldn't get upset at Xmas, she made us miss Dr who (we nvr miss the Xmas one). Even wen she tlkd about dead ppl in grace, I interrupted her n tlkd about the universe, to make her b quiet coz wat she says was triggering. Arggg. She didn't tell anyone about her b belch
Nd she sed I gave off bad vibes. 🤬 her. Sorry I had to rant
Wen I sed grace I tlkd about the future, I'm not religious but I didn't want a negative dinner
Shall I go if family goes to visit bc its hard to stand her forever
Also she told off me for picking up a Yorkshire pudding.
She talks always, nd wen she tlks wen im enjoying a film, I jump n think to myself 'stfu'
The gma I got on with who was Scandinavian we got on well she's dead now
Should I blank her frm now on?

AnonymousToe

Not sure what you should do but it sounds like she’s just a rude person in general to be honest. Maybe you could ask other family members what they think of it or what they think you should do? She’s not entitled to having you be there if she’s going to treat you like that, but then again it might just be easier to put up with it and ignore her. It depends how bad it is and it’s up to you really.

Former Member

Can you avoid ever seeing her again?

Maisy

Hey there,

Someone who is 'step' is technically family but they aren't biologically/blood related to you.

It sounds like your step grandma is a difficult person for your family to get along with and as you've said, your family don't say anything because she doesn't like to be wrong. If saying something might make things worse, then it might be worth trying to spend less time with her and just reminding yourself when you are with her that it's only for short amounts of time (e.g. if you see her over the Christmas holidays but don't really bother with her much otherwise).

It sounds like there is often a clash between your step grandma and you. Perhaps she wanted to mention dead people during grace as a way of remembering them, but she didn't think that it can be upsetting to mention people who aren't with us anymore. Equally, she might not watch Dr.Who so might not have thought that it was worth watching, although it is unfair that she made you miss it.

If you are having a really difficult time getting along with her, you might want to ask your family whether you have to visit her in the future and explain that you struggle to get along with her.

Hope this helps a bit

Former Member

Millions of people are related to people whom they dislike. She's quite a distant relative, so if you can avoid her, it's best to do so. It's better than having arguments. Many people don't say anything to difficult relatives because they want to avoid confrontation, so you can't expect anyone to correct her & doing so yourself is likely to make matters worse.