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Sunday Evening Support Thread (11/06)
AislingDM
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Heya guys! I’m back with another Sunday support thread
How are you all ?
How are you all ?
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Currently shitting bricks we’ve got really bad thunder and lighting
Oh sounds dreadful @Millie2787 ! Thunder and lightning can acc be so terrifying does it scare you x
I’m doing well thank you @Past User sounds rubbish why only “meh”?
Of course @Millie2787 I honestly can’t even imagine it - the burden that weighs on you is immense because even when you have to make that choice for him, it does leave you with a sense of guilt (even though you’re ofc not to blame). X
Completely @Past User , it really is like once life becomes this overwhelming, what on earth are you meant to do to feel okay anymore ? It’s no wonder it leaves you in such a dark place is there anything you’ve managed to enjoy lately? Even something tiny ?
No, you’re so right @Millie2787 , there’s a certain point in everyone’s life (including our pets) where you are so unwell that each day is immensely painful. And for some, making the choice to end that suffering for their pets is the kindest act that can be done, even though it is an indescribable pain to do it xx
Yes of course @Past User anything that might help you to feel even the smallest bit happier, I want you to want to be here xx
Couldn’t agree more @FordRanger , there is something very uniquely depressing and disheartening about considering the idea that you’ll be stuck in a career that you hate just to barely afford to exist and that shows how often money influences the careers we seek out which means our passions can’t even be fulfilled this is why I really do encourage all of my friends to use any time they have to try their hand at loads of different jobs / volunteering in different fields. Volunteering is especially good because there are fewer commitments so if you didn’t enjoy volunteering at a hospital, say, you can leave having crossed one more career off of your list xx
@AislingDM yh I did volunteering for a garage the other week it was ok but a lot of work for no money. You need money to make a living too so I don't know what to do. Hopefully something will come up.
That’s exactly it, right @FordRanger ? Like even when you find something you love, you can be stuck on minimum wage or a job with hardly any annual leave or any number of other depressing parts of being employed. It’s a particularly dreadful situation for young people coming into the workforce atm I know you’re interested in cars, are you interested in doing apprenticeships at some of the ‘big companies’ xx
She's got a lot of rules lately, I can't go out unless its with friends she's familiar with, no takeaways and we have to eat what she makes. My family don't believe in depression etc too, they said if someone was give a 1 million or a few mil then it would cure it.
My opinion on my families views on depression, I kind of partly agree with them because like 1 million would most likely cure all of my issues atm and maybe some other people's too but I dont know other people's circumstances tbf. I don't think they're fully wrong, but people have pstd and stuff like that but I dont think my famliy mean that. I think depression is real though.
Oh that’s so frustrating @FordRanger especially because it’s such a cool idea it seems like aside from money hindering your career goals, your mum is kind of getting in the way too. Living in quite a constrained way sounds so defeating because any attempts at being more independent or making your own choices (even for dinner) are quashed. Have you tried to push her boundaries at all ? (No stress if not, I know it can be really challenging to do). I think you make such an interesting point about depression because obv a lot of people are depressed because of their material circumstances (like money) or a lack of money worsens their existing depression, but obviously there will be rich people who are depressed too. I think it can’t be as simple as “money” because then all rich people would never struggle with their mental health as they do xxx
@AislingDM yh true but I guess I could lose money too. Ive not pushed boundaries. Tbh like ive said a lot its her house her rules unfortunately. Like on Monday i went will my dad to went to pick her up from work then he dropped us off at home and went to go pick up my sister from a music lesson and my brother didn't know so he asked where they are then my mum said "they have gone to get some chips" And I thought we were going to have a nice takeaway but my mum was just joking then we just ended up having the usual food we have like rice with prawns like I was going to order a takeaway but there's no way I'd be allowed one. I tried to order one and she snatched my phone off me then I was on just eat website she went on the job vacancies tab and then gave my phone back.
It was my fault for trying to order food when sh made it clear she was making it like I think its disrespectful since im living under her roof she pays the bills etc.
@AislingDM yh true, maybe I can move out after I sort a job or career out
See you all then, and will close the thread later on xx