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⚠️maybe triggering ⚠️Hiding my feelings(therapist friend)

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 287 The Mix Regular
    edited September 2024
    Hi @Past User

    I'm hearing that you are hiding your feelings from people, as your friends turn to you when the need help. That sounds really difficult. You said that people come to you for help, have you got anyone to go to when you need support? I'm also hearing that you are worried that it's not healthy in the long term. How would you feel about maybe signposting your friends to other resources, like the mix, samaritans or shout?
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  • Amy22Amy22 Posts: 5,074 Part of The Furniture
    I understand how you feel about having to be that therapist friend. The one who has to save their friends from ending it all. I bet it can be draining and scary. The thought of having to call the police and constantly having the need of saving your friends. Feeling scared that you are losing everyone around you. That sounds very stressful especially around Christmas. Don't forget that sometimes you have to look after yourself and do something that helps you.

    I understand the feeling of having to hide feelings all the time. I used to be like that, but when we bottle things up it can impact our health a lot causing burn out. Burn out isn't fun. It is okay to feel vulnerable and scared sometimes. But I am here for you if ever need someone to talk to <3
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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 287 The Mix Regular
    edited September 2024
    @Past User We're all here for you if you need support yourself. Well done for telling your girlfriend about the mix, hopefully she can get some support from here.
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  • Former MemberFormer Member Inactive Posts: 46 Boards Initiate
    edited September 2024
    @Past User I can hear things are really tough right now with everyone coming to you. I wanted to ask if you have been able to do something for you these past few days. I know that is difficult and adds to things you feel you need to do- is there one thing you can do for you? We are here if you want to talk.
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  • Former MemberFormer Member Inactive Posts: 46 Boards Initiate
    edited September 2024
    @Past User how has the rest of your day been?
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  • Former MemberFormer Member Inactive Posts: 46 Boards Initiate
    edited September 2024
    @Past User I am so sorry it has been awful. We are all here for you.
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  • Emma_Emma_ Inactive Posts: 601 Incredible Poster
    edited September 2024
    This sounds really tricky @Past User. It doesn't seem very fair on you but I can hear that your feeling this is your role at the moment. You mentioned that you're fine, but it doesn't sound like it if you're burning out. There is only so much we can hold as individuals to support our friends.

    We have to look after our selves to look after others - there's no use pouring from an empty glass. Are there other people your friends could get support from this year?

    You also mentioned you don't have anyone but I'm not sure that's true! You've got lots of lovely friends on here who care about you <3
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  • Former MemberFormer Member Inactive Posts: 46 Boards Initiate
    edited September 2024
    @Past User there is a lot going on for you right now, and I can hear that you don't feel you deserve to look after yourself. Please know you have friends that care about you, as @Emma_ has said. We are here. Do you want to talk about anything today?
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  • Former MemberFormer Member Inactive Posts: 46 Boards Initiate
    edited September 2024
    @Past User, please know that you have friends here, there's lots of us that care about you. I hear that you feel that you put yourself last and that you don't want to talk right now. That is totally fine, but if you want to talk, know that we are here, always.
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  • Emma_Emma_ Inactive Posts: 601 Incredible Poster
    edited September 2024
    We care @Past User <3

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    Also if you need something to smile at today it's hidden here :)
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  • Emma_Emma_ Inactive Posts: 601 Incredible Poster
    edited September 2024
    We do care @Past User , all of us do! But I can hear you're having a hard time hearing that at the moment <3 You deserve to be cared about too!
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  • boaboa Moderator, Staff Posts: 29 Boards Initiate
    edited September 2024
    Hi @Past User. You're so strong for helping your friends. Many people find it difficult to share their feelings but it often is a first step that may help us resolve our feelings. We're here for you <3 .
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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 16 Settling in
    edited September 2024
    Past User wrote: »
    I have to hide my feelings right because im just the therapist friend that everyone messages when there about to kill themselves or when they've already attempted and i have to call the police on them. Im just the friend that gets the call on christmas eve and christmas and new years day, its every year. Christmas was torture and everyone can have a go at me for that because I dont give one anymore.

    I need to continue hiding how I feel, so what if I break, so what if its not healthy in the long term. I have to hide how i feel from all my friends, the mix, professionals, family, literally everyone

    Hey @Past User, I can see how tough it can be to always be the therapist friend and it sounds like there's a lot of pressure on you this time of year. Just want to let you know that you're not alone and we're always here for you <3. How are you feeling right now?

    Thought it could be useful to share a couple of support articles that may be helpful to read:
    - How to spot when someone needs mental health support (with tips on how to look after yourself at the same time)
    - Having a conversation about suicide (with links to suicide prevention support)
    - How do I cope with suicidal thoughts (with a section on "my friend is having suicidal thoughts, how can I help them?")

    Take care and look after yourself. And don't forget, we're here for you.


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  • Former MemberFormer Member Moderator, Staff Posts: 40 Boards Initiate
    edited September 2024
    Really glad to hear that you're feeling ok today @Past User! :)
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