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I think I might be overthinking this
Amy22
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Hi, sorry to bother you but I know this does probably does sound silly. But this morning I went on Instagram, and one of my friends asked me for help with something. They sent it quite early in the morning and I woke up later on in the day. I responded saying okay but I haven't had a response off them at all. Later on this evening I sent another one asking if they got help. The person who sent me the message was a friend I met when I did work experience on a short film and they were the main actor. I know this sounds silly but they probably only needed help with something little. A part of me started overthinking and I got worried as they wern't responding back and I thought like what if they are in danger. This is a bit stupid of me to ask but I am overthinking the situation and about the message?. It's been a while since my overthinking or anxiety has ever made me feel like this at all. My overthinking things has been good at the moment and now it has dipped a bit. I know I got a bake sale i'm doing in college tomorrow so could be the excitment, overthinking and the joy of xmas too mixed into one. I am a bit of an empathetic person to be honest and I will worry about my friends a lot eventhough I don't need to. 
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Firstly, I would just like to say that this isn't silly at all, so please don't invalidate your feelings since they are so important ^^
I completely understand your feelings as I resonate with them greatly as an overthinker. Being empathetic is kind of like a double-edged sword. It can be a strength - it can enable us to be more aware of emotions and feelings not only in others but in ourselves too ^^ but it also comes with a lot of challenges - we tend to get more exhausted and overanalyse every single detail.
In our society, there's a stigma of being highly sensitive - which comes with the belief that sensitive people are weak - which is not true at all. This also doesn't help since this harmful insult can lead to sensitive people fixating over their insecurities. So please don't feel like you shouldn't cry as it doesn't show weakness at all.
The fact that you worry a little about your friends shows that you're a very lovely person, but I'm glad that you've acknowledged what you consider healthy concern.
If you have time, perhaps doing these activities may help you with your overthinking:
- keeping a gratitude journal: there's been a lot of studies that support the fact that expressing gratitude can make us more happy ^^ but when you write what you're grateful for, make sure it's specific and non-repetitive as repeating the same gratitude can feel like a meaningless chore.
- positive reframing: acknowledging the negative aspects and seeing whether there's another way that you can think about the situation. I understand how hard it is to achieve this thought pattern as it can take a lot of time, but it's definitely possible ^^ but this gives you control to change your situation, to step back and deal with things one at a time.
- meditation: meditation can allow us to become more mindful of when we're overthinking, as well as enable us to focus more on the present instead of what already happened, and what will happen.
In my experience, these activities have helped me greatly and I still continue to do these today, so I really hope it can help you too.
I hope that this helps and I really hope that your mother gets better as well.
Sending hugs,
Kai
Thanks @Laura_tigger82 everything has been sorted out now. With me I tend to overthink small things and I tend to catrophise something which can impact me a lot. Thank you though for looking out for me
It is understandable that you tend to overthink small things and catastrophise things which can impact you a lot