New here- feeling a bit odd about this all

Former Member

Hello Everyone,

I'm brand new to The Mix, and before I post anything/questions/forum posts I felt more comfortable just writing this. I'm a mid-aged teenager (not a legal adult but prefer not to disclose my age). I've spent some time over at ChildLine, however I often ended up asking repetitive questions and it wasn't really going anywhere (my own fault). Plus, I often ended up worrying about "adult" things, relating to sex and things like that so I felt it was probably more appropriate to come here. It might sound weird, but writing this I realise that ChildLine meant quite a lot to me so it's kinda hard to switch!

I've struggled with my mental health for a few years now, been in therapy for a few as well however despite people's beliefs I don't feel that I'm getting better. I'm lucky to have quite a nice life, so sometimes it feels like my worries are seen as pointless or looking for pity.

Anyway, a lot of them centre around sex/porn, which I'm wondering if it's ok if I can open a new thread about this? The common theme with all of my worries (across all topics) is the prospect of "biting in the butt", as if I will/have done something that's gonna affect me down the line. That said, I've never wanted to do anything wrong in these areas

Anyway, this is all a bit weird/foreign/new for me (I used to make a lot of use of the email threads for support at ChildLine, is there anything similar here?) but I hope I'll settle in.

Thanks, and have a great weekend.

MelonsAreBlue

Former Member

Secondly, there's some in my topic I'd like to post which I would feel more comfortable getting an OK before I post so I'd appreciate if I could message a moderator to verify it's ok to post.

Former Member

*some stuff, sorry!

Ed_

Hey @MelonsAreBlue - first up, welcome to the community, really glad you have found our little corner of the internet I wouldn't say it is weird to feel a strong connection to ChildLine, it sounds like you have found it a really safe and supportive space over the last couple of years and so it is natural to find it hard to move away from a space like that. Hopefully you will find The Mix a really positive community to be a part of.

It sounds like there is a sense of guilt for not feeling like things are getting better with your mental health, have I got that right? I always find this image helpful when thinking about recovery from mental health, it may seem cliché, but it is true that it is a journey with no defined route, your feelings and worries do matter and are important, there is no should when it comes to how we feel. Have you felt able to tell your therapist about how it doesn't feel like things are getting better? That may help them to think about how they can support you with this.




In terms of wanting to sense check a post first, it's absolutely okay to drop @TheMix a PM and they can take a look for you. It may be that you aren't able to start a PM yet, and so I am sure one of the team will be in touch over the next couple of days so that you can send them a line. One thing I would say is that generally speaking, it is okay to post about sex and porn in the sex and relationships section of our community, there are some guidelines you can read here that give you some ideas of the things that we may encourage or discourage when talking about these topics, however The Mix's approach is about creating as open a space as possible for people to talk through questions/thoughts/fears that they may have.

Former Member

Thanks. I can't PM, unfortunately yet, so I'm not too sure what to do. This message really helped though! Trying to grapple with feeling like a bad person

Azziman

Welcome

Former Member

Hi @MelonsAreBlue
I just started here too and this was the first introduction i clicked on and i feel like we have a bit in common like i was always on ChildLine and felt really safe over there but felt i was always talking about the same thing. Which is never a bad thing because if you need to get something off your chest you gotta get it off right!
I just realised that this thread was a few months old but i hope you're feeling okay in here and i wouldnt mind bonding over our shared issues im sure thats gotta help aha.

Amy22

Hi @MelonsAreBlue welcome to the mix . It's really lovely to have you here. I hope you enjoy your time here.

Sending hugs

Amy