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Some of my friends are Covid positive during Christmas

Kate_20Kate_20 Posts: 653 Incredible Poster
edited November 2022 in The subforum of Christmas Past
Some of my friends are Covid positive during Christmas and therefore have to spend Christmas in isolation. What simple things can I do for them? I don't want to bring them my depressive mood though. It is already too much on their plate.
Tengo el alma en cuarentena y roto el cuerpo
Qué dolor, qué pena y qué tormento
El Kanka - Lo mal que estoy y lo poco que me quejo
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  • ItaliaItalia Posts: 238 Trailblazer
    Hey Kate,

    This is really thoughtful of you to take the time to think about how to support your friends in isolation this Christmas, especailly when it sounds like you are feeling low at the moment too. They have a good friend in you. :)

    I'm sure the community will come up with some creative ideas for ways to reach out to your friends today. If you are lost, keeping it simple and reaching out to say "hey, you're not alone" never goes a miss.

    I know sometimes it can feel as though our own big feelings can be a burden on others, it can be helpful to think about how you might feel about a friend, who wants to reach out but is worried that their depression might be a burden? Would you still want to hear from them anyway?

    What do you think you would want if you were in thier position?

    “People who wade into discomfort and vulnerability and tell the truth about their stories are the real badasses.”
    -     Brene Brown

  • Laura_tigger82Laura_tigger82 Moderator Posts: 5,307 Part of The Furniture
    Hey @Kate_20 :)

    I agree with everything @Italia has already said!

    I am sorry to hear some of your friends are Covid positive. Being Covid positive is difficult at any time of year but especially at this time of year.

    I would also just say you are there for them, perhaps share movies with them that you have enjoyed watching, and just let them know that you are thinking of them.

    Most of the time it is all the little things that mean the most to people :3

    Sorry to hear you are struggling. If you would like to talk to us about anything, we are here for you with big virtual arms for hugs and ears to listen <3
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  • Kate_20Kate_20 Posts: 653 Incredible Poster
    @Italia @Laura_tigger82 I finally sent them a message but it might be too late. I am still worried about making them feel worse. I cannot send them movies because I only like those which could make me cry and I don't want them crying alone in isolation.
    Tengo el alma en cuarentena y roto el cuerpo
    Qué dolor, qué pena y qué tormento
    El Kanka - Lo mal que estoy y lo poco que me quejo
  • Kate_20Kate_20 Posts: 653 Incredible Poster
    I am so lonely and scared despite having sent all my friends short messages. I don't know what is wrong with me. Shouldn't make this post all about how I feel though when people are suffering.
    Tengo el alma en cuarentena y roto el cuerpo
    Qué dolor, qué pena y qué tormento
    El Kanka - Lo mal que estoy y lo poco que me quejo
  • Kate_20Kate_20 Posts: 653 Incredible Poster
    What's wrong with me I feel so empty and drained.
    Tengo el alma en cuarentena y roto el cuerpo
    Qué dolor, qué pena y qué tormento
    El Kanka - Lo mal que estoy y lo poco que me quejo
  • Laura_tigger82Laura_tigger82 Moderator Posts: 5,307 Part of The Furniture
    Hi @Kate_20

    I am really sorry to hear you are having a tough time :/ I think the most important thing is that you have not only been able to identify how you feel but you have also been able to name how you feel.

    Other people are indeed suffering but that does not remove the struggles you are also facing. It is never too late to message your friends.

    Not least because you still messaged them on Christmas day. Your friends would appreciate your messages any time of the year! <3
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  • boaboa Moderator, Staff Posts: 29 Boards Initiate
    Hi Kate_20,
    It is so nice of you that you sent your friends a message and that you are thinking of them.

    I am sorry to hear you are not feeling well. Thank you for sharing your feelings, it takes lots of strength. Please keep posting. The community is here to support you. Sending you lots of strength and hugs. <3
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 34 Boards Initiate
    Hi @Kate_20 I just wanted to check in and see how are you feeling? I'm sure your friends appreciated your message when they had to isolate over Christmas and I'm sorry that you struggled too with feeling drained and lonely. I'm hoping with the new year and them hopefully being out of isolation now that you are feeling a bit more energised and your mood is more relaxed.
  • Kate_20Kate_20 Posts: 653 Incredible Poster
    @Friendlyneighbour Sorry for my reply but I feel like I am on the verge of dying.
    Tengo el alma en cuarentena y roto el cuerpo
    Qué dolor, qué pena y qué tormento
    El Kanka - Lo mal que estoy y lo poco que me quejo
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 34 Boards Initiate
    Hi @Kate_20 don't be sorry for your reply, your feelings are valid and thank you for being open and expressing them. What do you think made you feel this way? Is this a recent feeling or a feeling you've had for a while?
  • Kate_20Kate_20 Posts: 653 Incredible Poster
    @Friendlyneighbour Yeah I always have chest pain and pain in my left arm. I just hope it could kill me one day.
    Tengo el alma en cuarentena y roto el cuerpo
    Qué dolor, qué pena y qué tormento
    El Kanka - Lo mal que estoy y lo poco que me quejo
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 34 Boards Initiate
    Hi @Kate_20 I'm sorry that you are feeling this way and that you normally have pain in your chest and left arm. Is this something that your gp is aware of?

    I'm sorry that you are having difficulties with your mental health at the moment and that things haven't quite settled down over Christmas. It is important to take care of your mental health like the rest of your body. Does it seem like you feel this way a lot? Are you currently seeking any support of any kind for this? There are many services out there that specialise in mental health and also medication which can help too.
  • Kate_20Kate_20 Posts: 653 Incredible Poster
    @Friendlyneighbour My GP thinks it is a minor problem. I've been like this for a while. Nothing can help.
    Tengo el alma en cuarentena y roto el cuerpo
    Qué dolor, qué pena y qué tormento
    El Kanka - Lo mal que estoy y lo poco que me quejo
  • Laura_tigger82Laura_tigger82 Moderator Posts: 5,307 Part of The Furniture
    Hi @Kate_

    I am really sorry to hear your GP has stated this. If you don't think it is a minor problem, you have every right to seek a second opinion. Please keep them up to date if you feel comfortable with doing so as this may change their view. I believe there's always help and hope, even if that is just time! :3
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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,327 Wise Owl
    @Kate_20 As @Laura_tigger82 has said, it's really important that you preserve with this, remember if one GP gives you an opinion that doesn't sit right with you, you're well within your rights to ask to see a different GP until you find one that's putting your mental health first and invested in helping you through your recovery!
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