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Is attraction important in relationships?
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A friend came to me asked me for some advice, she confessed to me that she loved her boyfriend dearly but she just wasn't attracted to him. She told me that she felt bad and confessed to her boyfriend and out these feelings in order to find a way round. She didn't want to give up on the relationship just because of the lack of attraction but it did leave me wondering...
How important is attraction in relationships and what are your thoughts on the matter?
How important is attraction in relationships and what are your thoughts on the matter?
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But then yeah I get sometimes just don't find physically attractive then I think that's quite an important thing. Like they don't have to be like the best looking person you've ever seen but I think you need some physical attraction there otherwise that could make sexual thing and affection harder. Like we all have different views on who we see as attractive & unattractive and I'd just kinda find it hard imagine being affectionate and all that if I personally found them unattractive.
While I think people probably make the relationships work. And that I think, someone's personality is way more of a factor than looks I still think I wouldn't have a relationship if they wasn't attractive and harder to have attraction/ that connection that would feel more like a friend.
And it's a lot about how much how the actual person sees it as a problem
Without good attraction and chemistry, intimacy is more difficult and (to me at least) that’s an important part of a relationship too.
I definitely go for personality over looks but having an attraction there is important in the long-term.
Yep, it's important! But it depends on what kind of attraction. Typically, the start of a relationship will be based on physical attraction, and move to emotional attraction over time. But being attracted to your partner in some way is important, I'd think
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As mentioned above it depends on the type of attraction. But I think both types are important, emotional attraction is usually the root of the relationship. I find the physical attraction helps people stay together because they don't feel like somethings missing and don't stray from their relationship.