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What's helped you stay strong?

AoifeAoife Community Manager Posts: 3,228 Boards Guru
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Hey everyone,

As part of The Mix's stronger campaign, we want to help people stay strong. We'd love to know what's helped you stay strong during a difficult time?

Look forward to hearing from you. :)

- Aife
Maybe somethings don't get better, but we do. We get stronger. We learn to live with our situations as messy and ugly as they are. We fix what we can and we adapt to what we can't. Maybe some of us will never fully be okay, but at least we're here. We're still trying. We're doing the best we can. That's worth celebrating too ❤

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  • Former MemberFormer Member The Mix convert Posts: 226 Trailblazer
    My little sister is amazing at helping me stay strong just by being so happy all the time with her outlook on life.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Owl Whisperer Posts: 1,020 Wise Owl
    Because someone has to be, even if everything is falling down around me.
  • independent_independent_ Community Champion Posts: 9,040 Supreme Poster
    Hmm...

    Maybe music and family. :)
    “Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to, it’s not for them.”
  • Former MemberFormer Member Owl Whisperer Posts: 1,020 Wise Owl
    I'll add Jules because she's my rock. :)
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,875,648 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Mirabelle wrote: »
    I'll add Jules because she's my rock. :)

    Thank you, sweetheart. :) Don't know what I'd have done without you.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,171 Wise Owl
    Opening up to my friends and family is what keeps me strong - no bottling up feelings!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Owl Whisperer Posts: 1,020 Wise Owl
    Opening up to friends can makes us feel vulnerable, and I'm speaking personally here. Letting people in, especially if one is unused to this, is not going to be an easy step to make. Especially if in real life we are shy by nature. Though I'm a friendly and outgoing person, still I would find it difficult opening up to people I'm unsure of.

    Honestly, it's something I would hesitate with unless someone close to me smiles encouragingly, making me feel whatever I'd say would fine. Before doing so though, I would want to master my having better communication skills. All very well being on stage in front of a thousand people, and singing my heart out in one my songs, but in real life face-to-face? Gosh that would be a different situation!

    For example, it's all well and good opening up to someone here on the forum because we don't see their face. Therefore anonymity would encourage me more to open up. But in real life that is going to be a bugger, much harder, and especially if it was going to be with a counsellor. They would have to be very skilled to get me to open up on stuff that is deep, let me say this right now.

    If, on the other hand, I clam up and shut myself off from sharing with friends, then I realise as a teenager I will not blossom and grow, and become wiser. And more sure of myself.

    After mummy passes away, I'm going to see a grief counsellor. I asked our Macmillan nurse and she asked my doctor. I had a telephone consultation with my doctor and she referred me to a gentle lady to grief counsel me. I did this on my own because I know it's going to be helpful to me.

    Until then, to help myself forward, I've been writing personal feelings in my diary at home. Writing in my diary is helping myself to be more aware of my thoughts and feelings. On re-reading my scribbles, I was able to analyze what has gone wrong, so I sat back to chew around in my mind ways to help me cope better. So when the time comes for me to walk in the door to the room my grief counsellor is in, then hopefully she and I can build up a mutual understanding so I can trust her enough to tell what I really need. I realise this is going to take me a lot of courage.

    Belle x
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