addiction to porn!!

Former Member

i have a bad addiction to porn on the net.
im in a relationship with the same partner,for the last 17years or so.
ever since we got a computer in the house,im browsing all the porn,and on my labtop.
it does my head in.
stayin up half the night watchin the filth,its a terrible compulsion.
i also suffer with anxiety and depression,
all sexual related,i think i also have erectile dysfunction.
i havent had sex in about 5 years.
relieving myself with the porn is all that i do.dont even get proper erections,my penis has got tiny,so small,i want to cut it off!
i also have a terrible fettish addiction to dirty knickers,im buying them on line,for my sexual gradification,thats all that goes throught my head.
i dont work,im on disability for stomach and bowel problems,but the porn end of it is the worst.has anyone on here any of these problems!!Old Mad

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Hi there

That does sound like a terrible compulsion - it sounds like you know you don't want to carry on, but at the same time something really strong is driving you.

On the addiction side of things, I wonder whether you could take some steps to cut down. For example, giving yourself a limit of so many hours, or turning the computer off at a certain time each night. You might find that if you don't stimulate yourself for a little while, that your erections get stronger.

It does sound like the deeper drives for your compulsion are worth exploring. There can be different reasons that drive people to watch a lot of porn, including distraction from other life problems, sexual difficulties, and difficulties with intimate relationships. But, as I'm sure you know, watching a lot of porn can add to these problems too. You can give SupportLine a call to talk through anything emotional that you're struggling with, and it will be confidential. You can call them on 01708 765200 (opening hours vary), and they also have email and post services.

It might also be worth thinking about your relationship with your partner. Would you say that you're happy together? Is there something you could do improve your intimate life together? It would be really good to talk to your partner about some of the difficulties you're having, whether it's erectile dysfunction, health problems, unemployment. Getting things out ni the open is the first step in dealing with them. This article has some good tips on communicating with your partner.

I wonder whether the rest of your life might be worth looking at as well? It can feel really isolating and soul-destroying not working, and if you lack outlets in certain areas, it's not surprising that you find ways to fill time. So I wonder if there are things like education (including online courses such as those provided by FutureLearn) or volunteering that could be a more productive use of your time?

You say you have a bad addiction, a terrible compulsion, which suggests that this has quite a serious affect on you. It might really be worth considering some counselling to help your work through these things.

Also just to note that TheSite is aimed at 16-25 year olds, so if you're a lot older than this, you might find that you can find more appropriate community support in other spaces. But you're welcome to post, and it's really good that you've raised this as an issue for you, that's a difficult and important step in moving things forward.

Hope this is of some help.

Former Member

Danny! wrote: »

Hi there

That does sound like a terrible compulsion - it sounds like you know you don't want to carry on, but at the same time something really strong is driving you.

On the addiction side of things, I wonder whether you could take some steps to cut down. For example, giving yourself a limit of so many hours, or turning the computer off at a certain time each night. You might find that if you don't stimulate yourself for a little while, that your erections get stronger.

It does sound like the deeper drives for your compulsion are worth exploring. There can be different reasons that drive people to watch a lot of porn, including distraction from other life problems, sexual difficulties, and difficulties with intimate relationships. But, as I'm sure you know, watching a lot of porn can add to these problems too. You can give SupportLine a call to talk through anything emotional that you're struggling with, and it will be confidential. You can call them on 01708 765200 (opening hours vary), and they also have email and post services.

It might also be worth thinking about your relationship with your partner. Would you say that you're happy together? Is there something you could do improve your intimate life together? It would be really good to talk to your partner about some of the difficulties you're having, whether it's erectile dysfunction, health problems, unemployment. Getting things out ni the open is the first step in dealing with them. This article has some good tips on communicating with your partner.

I wonder whether the rest of your life might be worth looking at as well? It can feel really isolating and soul-destroying not working, and if you lack outlets in certain areas, it's not surprising that you find ways to fill time. So I wonder if there are things like education (including online courses such as those provided by FutureLearn) or volunteering that could be a more productive use of your time?

You say you have a bad addiction, a terrible compulsion, which suggests that this has quite a serious affect on you. It might really be worth considering some counselling to help your work through these things.

Also just to note that TheSite is aimed at 16-25 year olds, so if you're a lot older than this, you might find that you can find more appropriate community support in other spaces. But you're welcome to post, and it's really good that you've raised this as an issue for you, that's a difficult and important step in moving things forward.

Hope this is of some help.

cheers for your reply,was thinking on going in to the live chat part with my problem ,and setting up an appointment their,would that be of any benefit to me,cheers mate!!:thumb: