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is it respectful to 'look good' at a funeral?
i mean, wear nice make up and do your hair nicely, as if you were going to a birthday meal or something maybe?
or do you think that you should really go with minimalistic make up, a 'normal' up/down hair do, plain black trousers and a plain black jacket covering a plain black top with some plain black shoes?
im not trying to say i want to go tarted up or anything, but i havent a clue what to wear. do i make an effort to look nice, or do i put on a smart black suit and just hope for the best?
i mean, wear nice make up and do your hair nicely, as if you were going to a birthday meal or something maybe?
or do you think that you should really go with minimalistic make up, a 'normal' up/down hair do, plain black trousers and a plain black jacket covering a plain black top with some plain black shoes?
im not trying to say i want to go tarted up or anything, but i havent a clue what to wear. do i make an effort to look nice, or do i put on a smart black suit and just hope for the best?
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i dont know what to do. i always get looked upon as the rebel of the family (which is technically untrue) and my nan hardly holds me in the high regards of her standards. i just dont want to let anyone down, especially my aunty, on such a sad day. i hate making decisions
thank you
i know you wouldnt be on the pull! just usualy when theres a lot of old people around they look down on it (i know lol!) thats why i started wearing no make up at all, couldnt stand all the bitchy old biddys ruining someones funeral with their shite!
do you think its something my partner should come to? he only met her once. if he comes then thats lovely and he'll be there for me, although i dont think my nan would be too happy about it. and if he doesnt come then it means i dont have to take Jazmyn with me but i'll be on my own, apart from my mum and that lot obviously, i just mean i wont have his support next to me
No, wearing make-up like that is perfect. You'd look smart, like you'd made an effort, and you hadn't gone overboard.
Tbh, if it was me who had a Nan to impress, then just for one day I'd wear black. Everyones happy, and theres no bitching about who doesnt look presentable or what-not.
You've got your head screwed on Badabing, whatever you choose to wear, you'll look fine.
*hugs* about the news in general hun...
As for your b/f going, I don't see that it would be a problem...ask your mum what she thinks, she's bound to know how the fmaily will react to it better than we can.
Even if im not close to someone I still get upset at funerals
I also just tend to dress smart, does not have to be black. Sometimes people request NO BLACK anyway.
oh i dont know, im not particualrly in the mood now - i just spent an hour and a half talking to my tutor about anything and everything. i feel a bit better, but i still feel like theres lots of stuff to deal with in general/. talk soon x
firstly sorry for your loss!
if you need his support then have him come with you see if someone can look after jazmyn.
as for what to wear what you are comfortable in as long as you are smart. wear make up as long as its not ott but you dont seem to be the type of gal to do that at a funeral. dont worry about it too much. the most important thing is that you are there and showing respect for your auntie x
Me and my mates used to joke that if any of us died we'd want everyone to wear bright topical shirts and shit. As it happens in the last year three of my mates have died but when it came to it we still got suited an booted for the funerals (Some wore trainers tho) and we didn't think the famillies would be too impressed if we turned up in bright colours.
At the end of the day all we wanted to make an effort - dress properly, sing loud, and get thouroughly pissed up afterwards. The most important thing is that you turned up!!
I don't think make ups a problem at all.