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does anyone else think that people just don't value marriage anymore?
there's an awful lot of people getting engaged young (like 18 or 19) only to break it of a year or two later. point?
i can't really talk, cause i was engaged at 19, which wasn't the best idea i've ever had.
now i've found a guy i actually want to spend the rest of my life with, and i'm worried that all my family are going to be all 'oh, not again'.
i'm 22. am i still too young?
there's an awful lot of people getting engaged young (like 18 or 19) only to break it of a year or two later. point?
i can't really talk, cause i was engaged at 19, which wasn't the best idea i've ever had.
now i've found a guy i actually want to spend the rest of my life with, and i'm worried that all my family are going to be all 'oh, not again'.
i'm 22. am i still too young?
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In terms of getting engaged, I would wait until I knew for sure that I want to genuinely spend my life with her. If I was happy and the like, I would probably go for it.
aw i dunno :rolleyes:
I'm sure everyone on here knows that I'm a firm believer in marriage and its importance. I have noticed that people don't seem to believe in it as much anymore. I guess peolpe just see it as a technicallity, or a piece of paper, but I see it as a union between two lovers - the ultimate connection.
I don't think it's fair to say 'you're XYZ - it's far too young!' because it's all very personal. If you both think you're ready for this commitment and are happy to spend your life with one another, then you should do it even if you think you are 'too young'. Of course, it's just stupid if you're 15 or something.
I know a couple I went to school with who got engaged when they were 15. It turned out a few weeks later that she was pregnant. They split up shortly after the baby was born, but they might be back together now, I'm not sure.. but I do believe they did/do fully intend to get married.
But yes...if you don't intend to get married, there really is no point in engagement in my opinion.
People get engaged without intending to get married? That don't make one bit of sense.
that's exactly how i feel - i want my engagement to do what it is, in my opinion, supposed to - get me ready for my wedding. i've been with my bloke for 5 years now and we've talked about the topic of engagement. he doesn't see any problem with getting engaged now, but i would at least want to be living with him first!
engagement is for two people that both feel love between them and have been throuh ups and downs.
do you notice though its mostly tinks who get engaged young and have kids.
hope this doesnt happen to my bro i dont want him to ruin his life and the end up fighting for custody of there kids.
save engadgement for when you know its the one, youl appreciate it in the long run.
i just don't want my family to be critical, because i've been engaged before.
having said that, i keep getting the 'i was married at your age' from my mum, so i don't think she'd have a problem with it.
i know everyone's going to say 'do what you want and not what your family wants' but my family are really important to me and i really do care what they think.
Hey, I know that breaks some of you girls hearts to know that the Wobbler isn't up for marriage, but that's the way it is I'm affraid.
Mr_Wobble
*sob*