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so confused!
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i was with a guy for quite a long time and even though it was tough being in a long distance relationship i had the best time when i was with him. now we split up about a month ago because he was having finacial problems and couldn't afford to keep coming down to see me and so we decided to call it a day but remain friends.
since then we still speak on the phone and neither of us has been interested in anyone else, the problem is i still love him, and when we were talking he said that he loves me 2. BUT he also says that he's not ready for a relationship and so we should remain friends but how can u just be mates with someone when u are madly in love with them and u know that they feel the same?? im scared that in time he will meet someone else and so i am desperate to get in a relationship with him, i even feel guilty when i look at other men! we are really screwed up and i need to get something sorted. any suggestions?
lisa :wave:
since then we still speak on the phone and neither of us has been interested in anyone else, the problem is i still love him, and when we were talking he said that he loves me 2. BUT he also says that he's not ready for a relationship and so we should remain friends but how can u just be mates with someone when u are madly in love with them and u know that they feel the same?? im scared that in time he will meet someone else and so i am desperate to get in a relationship with him, i even feel guilty when i look at other men! we are really screwed up and i need to get something sorted. any suggestions?
lisa :wave:
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I'd say, try to let him go. Try not to call him as much as you do now. You two have already tried and split up. Don't feel bad 'bout looking at other men, I have a bf and I still look at other men, but that's all You've got to go out with ya friends, don't think 'bout him too much, try to meet other people.
In time, you will get over him.
I think this is the main thing here - it'd never work for as long as he feels like this.
He wants to enjoy being young and single and I know it's hard for you but I'm afraid there's nothing else you can do other than let him go.
Good luck
But stay friends, if you can handle that. It will be hard when someone else comes along for him, but if you can cope you never know how the future will work.
How old are you both just out of interest? I know I'm being lazy not checking your profile but my connections really slow tonight. sorry.
Sorry I cna't be more positive for you but in the long run you've got to give it time ad space and see how everything turns out. Just remember this has happened for a reason and although it may not be clear now in the future it will be.
i think this is so very true, if i was in his situation i would have found money to see you even if it wasnt alot of time together it still shows he would do anything for you. i would do it for my g/f. im 20 and arent in money troubles but i still would find a way to see her.
im 22 and he is 24.
lisa :wave: