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First weeks at uni
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I hope to go to uni not next year but the year after, and was wondering how easy you found it to settle in in the first few weeks. Most importantly, i'm worried that it will be difficult to make new friends, since people might be really cliquey/unfriendly? Although everyone is in the same boat i suppose? How did everyone find it?
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There are people who I hung out with in the first week and have never spoken to again.
Just be yourself and chat to lots of people, sign up for clubs etc. at freshers and you'll soon find people who you like.
Signing up for clubs etc didn't help me either because by the time the meetings etc came about people had already made friends and weren't really looking to make any more.
The few mates I did have were on my course and we had agreed to walk to lectures and seminars together.
I now don't talk to anyone I went to uni with.
My advice is to pretend like you are the most sociable person in the world. Love everyone and everything, and don't go to Hatfield College at Durham Uni and you'll be fine.
My advice would be do it, go to uni and stick out the first year even if it seems to much like hard work at times,
live in halls, they are brilliant places altjough a bit loud at times but u can usually choose wether you want to be in a quiet hall or a loud one (loud ones are nearer the pub)
Heres a tip do not stay in your room go out meet people if they invite you to go out somewhere with them go dont hold back whatever the outcome and experience
My form tutor is always saying that, I think a lot of people find that even at colleges when they're 16, the first people you meet tend to be soon forgotten....
I'm gonna take fuck loads of alcohol with me too, so I can share it with my new flat mates because we all know alcohol bonds people.
Well this is if I actually get into uni....
:yes: oh so true!!
A few of my friends are planning on going to the same Uni as me, but even though one of them is my best friend, I'm trying to avoid being in the same halls building because i want to be made to activly make friends. I know if shes around i just wont. That sounds like i just want to stop being friends with her, which is totally untrue- I just want more opportunities. And she'll still be close at hand when I need her!
On the other hand, I'm not the most confident of people ever in the company of new people, so I am quite worried about being surrounded by thousands of new people in totally unfamiliar suroundings.
What doesnt kill us makes us stronger!
Think back to your school days - if you went through the same system I did then you'll have moved schools at about 11yrs old. Well that first week at 'big school' is pretty much what the first week at uni is like (without the bullies!) - you go round and introduce yourself, make friends with everyone then gradually find your own group of close friends.
I found it felt like I'd announced my name, subject and home town about 1000 times on my first day!
There will generally be some 'old-hands' i.e. second years, around to show you the ropes and help out however they can
Just don;t be afraid to ask questions and talk to people