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I Fancy My Best Mate - THe Risk

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
in Sex & Relationships
I really really liked my best mate for months so i told her and tonight i lost my best mate forever. She didnt want anything more than friends and i couldnt be just friends so it ended.:crying: To anyone who's in the same situation just a warning that the worst case does happen and it is a risk

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I am sorry that you have had a bad experience with your friend.

    However, I think people should be aware that there can be a positive outcome.

    I have been going out with my best friend for over four years now.
    Tip: Get a mutual friend to suss out their attitude before you tell them!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    What an awful situation.

    In my first year at uni I really liked my best mate at uni too but knew deep down she didn't like me "in that way" so I kept quiet.

    It was very hard but looking back I'm glad I did, we are still friends ( not as close, sometimes I find her annoying now) and I met someone else :) ( even thought it ended :( )

    Don't make any rash decisions, you maybe able to be friends, I know it sounds difficult though. I'm friends even with my ex :crazyeyes . it's difficult but I'm managing!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    It's all over, just because you told her? As Punto said, don't act too rashly and end your friendship. I know it must be hard to deal with but if she's a really good friend, wouldn't you rather have her around in that capacity than lose her completely?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Tsk thanks I was gona confess to my mate like in next few days and youve put me off now.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Don't make it put you off, but before you confess you have to pretty certain the feeling is mutual. As someone else said above, perhaps get a friend to sound her feelings beforehand
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Re: I Fancy My Best Mate - THe Risk
    Originally posted by Sharkky
    I really really liked my best mate for months so i told her and tonight i lost my best mate forever. She didnt want anything more than friends and i couldnt be just friends so it ended.:crying: To anyone who's in the same situation just a warning that the worst case does happen and it is a risk

    I told my best mate two weeks I like her, we discussed it and agreed we'd just be friends. I am happy its sorted that way-I get to move on now as such, felt awkward fro a few days,but were back good mates now its kinda forgotten about.

    You have to get that mentality into your head and do the same-
    Bomber I suggest you go for it, he took the decision to end their friendship in effect- you'll get that choice!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    fair point, well got another couple of days before I see her anyway.
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