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here's some questions that i thought might be interesting:
How old do people want to be when they get married? How long do you want to be with that person before you make such a committment? Do people feel that they will probably marry around the same age their parents did?
How old do people want to be when they get married? How long do you want to be with that person before you make such a committment? Do people feel that they will probably marry around the same age their parents did?
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but I was about 25 wen I realised I'd met the person 'm going to spend the rest of my life with and we've been together 8 years.
My mum and dad married when she was 19 and he was 24...a bit young for her I think, and then she went on to have 3 kids in 4 years which sent her into depression. I'm surprised my dad got married at all as he was hardly marriage material!!
I think that getting married only a few wees or months into a relationship is worse than marrying really young but marrying someone you've known for a while.
I'd always suggest moving in first too!!
I dunno when im gonna get married but if i do get married wen my parents did itll be in 3 years wen im 21
Personally, I hope to get married by the age of 30.
My father married at 19 but was divorced by 22. He married my mum when he was *thinks*.... 25.
No way! My parents were 19 and 20 when they got married! :eek:
In an ideal world I'd like to get married at about 30 but to be honest I'm not that bothered at the moment. I wouldn't get married without living with someone first and I would have had to of been with them for at least a couple of years!
Who knows though, my opinions will probably change in 10 years time.
My first thoughts were that I'd like to be about 25....but that only gives me 2.5 years in which to meet this perfect man! lol :rolleyes: So let's say late 20's....about 27 ish and I'd ideally like to be with the guy for about 3 or 4 years first.
Too late to be married the same age as my parents - they were 20 & 22, and I'm 22 now!
It's just something I've always thought I'll do, and I dream of finding the perfect man to spend the rest of my life with. I don't really care when I marry as long as it's not so young that I don't enjoy being single at all (like straight after uni etc) and not so old that I can't have children any more.
My parents were 26 and 22, I think that's a little young.
i doubt it'll ever happen but hohum.
my mum was 22 when she got married, but 27 before she had me - i think she married a little bit young, but i'm glad she waited until she was a bit older before having children.
Mine were 24 and 19! (Dad and Mum respectively). But they'd been together for 3 years before that and had lived together already because my mum was ill and because of various family problems. So they had a very strong relationship before that. They're still married, 21 years later. So really I don't think you can make a hard and fast rule about it. My mum didn't go to uni or anything and doesn't work now, so she didn't have that complication - but they did keep the relationship going through my dad's university career, before they got married.
I think age isn't so important as how long you've been together. I wouldn't assume that just because I was 30, I should marry the first stable boyfriend I have at that time. But if I were still with my current boyfriend when I'm, say 25, (unlikely, but I'm talking hypothetically - so we'd have been together for 6/7 years which isn't really going to happen) I might decide that we'd been together long enough to get married. I think it depends on the relationship but it's a shame that so many people get engaged so young without real intention to get married, or thinking that divorce is an easy get out clause if it all goes wrong.
Whoops, that was long.
My parents met when they were 19 & 20 but because they were both in uni doing medicine didn't get married untill 24 & 25.
I'm 16 & Paul is 18
I wanna have kids by the time I am 25 though
I'm certainly discovering that once you get past the age of 27 the years seem to pass by twice as quickly as before!!:)
Mr_Wobble
Good point. at 21 I couldn't even imagine getting married, but after going out with my girlfriend for about 4 months I to realised that this was the person I wanted to spend the rest of my life with . we decided to get married - did it about a year + 1/2 later and 6 years down the line things are still pretty good. sure we have our ups and downs but marriage is a working partnership and for us a lifelong commitment, which we will keep working at.
I should also say I knew my g/f well before we started going out.
I think that the age one marries is (almost) irrelevant, its about commitment and opportunity.
he is my best friend in the whole world!!! im not really sure when id like to get married part of me wants to in the next couple of years and part of me wants to wait because i want to travel etc, i think i will end up waiting, because if we are ment to be it will just happen.
i do miss him so much, but since he went away again on saturday hes been very sweet and sending me some lovely texts. just had to add that bit!