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Hello. I am 19 years old (male) and I have a daughter with my fiance. The thing is I have recently fallen out with a friend because of my sex life (can you believe!?)
I confided something in him and he said it was weird and he would not put up with it.
I admitted that myself and my fiance, although we have been together for three years (and have an 18 month old daughter) have only ever had penetrative sex three or four times. My fiance really doesn't like it, and I am not keen to force her to do it, because I enjoy what we do do (which is surprisingly quite a lot!).
It does not bother me, but my friend has begun to claim my fiance is a freak and so am I for not wanting a "proper shag".
Can we continue like this or will there come a time when I wil have to say enough is enough? I would like to stress that I am very happy with our relationship.
Anyone in a similar situation? Thank you.
I confided something in him and he said it was weird and he would not put up with it.
I admitted that myself and my fiance, although we have been together for three years (and have an 18 month old daughter) have only ever had penetrative sex three or four times. My fiance really doesn't like it, and I am not keen to force her to do it, because I enjoy what we do do (which is surprisingly quite a lot!).
It does not bother me, but my friend has begun to claim my fiance is a freak and so am I for not wanting a "proper shag".
Can we continue like this or will there come a time when I wil have to say enough is enough? I would like to stress that I am very happy with our relationship.
Anyone in a similar situation? Thank you.
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What you and your gf do is your business, if you tell him anything he does have the right to voice his opinion but not be a cunt about it!!
Maybe he's jealous of the relationship you and your gf have?
Don't let him take the piss, have a word with him and then don't confide in him any more.
If you are happy, what's it does it matter?
If you do want more penetrative sex, why not talk to your gf about it!
What does she dislike about it?
Don't let your friend change you!
I would find out why you gf doesn't like penetrative sex first, If you enjoy it and she doesn't, it's not fair to just cut it out of your life!
Maybe it's a simple reason of you not doing enough foreplay on her
But don't let this wanker make you think that you are not normal!!
Everybody wants to be considered normal, which is why it led me to question myself.
She dislikes it for many reasons, some of which I feel are too personal to go into, I would rather respect her wishes that I do not tell anybod (no offence to anybody here, you understand?)
I do not particulary want more penetrative sex, I am very happy with the sex life we have now. I am actually surprised it is as healthy as it is due to our daughter!
Only penetrative sex three or four times in that time is, well, to me, a bit strange. Ok, so you must do other things, but that is odd.
Anyway, if you're happy, then that's fine.
Mr_Wobble
Perhaps what you do (or don't do) may seem a little odd to some, but who cares? Sometimes the best sex does not involve penetration.
I wouldnt worry about what your mate says, if your happy then thats the main thing:)
you never know... in the future your fiance might want to have penetrative sex, but right now, you're both happy with the situation you're in, and surely thats the most important thing.
Manual? Does knocking one off count as having a sex life?
:rolleyes:
That is very insensitive! :rolleyes:
Thanks rainbow brite, that was what I meant.
if YOU'RE happy, DON'T listen to him! There's no such thing as 'normal'
It would be so sad to ruin a beautiful relationship and a family, just because of an uneducated, closedminded and unhelpful comment from a 'friend.'
Respect to you for being considerate to your good lady friend and future wife.....
Your friend should shut their ignorant goddam mouth.......
We are very much in love and we are very happy with what we do in the bedroom (a lot of you would be very surprised!)
Thank you all once again, you've made me feel less freakish. It was nice to here from some of the blokes too, that they were supportive.
I agree with Bumblebee...your friend should support you and i think that to be able to confide in a friend is a valueble thing. If you are happy with your family and your relationship with your fiancé, why should you change the way you live your life to fit into the genre of 'normal'. What is 'normal' anyways? Ask your friend what he classes as normal, see what he says then ask him if what heis doing isnt 'abnormal' and you are 'normal'. He may think differently after that.
Don't change to suit other people, you are you and if your happy then f*ck them!
Antalya xxx :wave: