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That's the most interesting thing I think. If you tell your other half, is it for their sake or yours? Usually it's for yours, which is something a lot of people don't realise.
HOWEVER it can damage a relationship by eating away at it, if you don't tell them - it's a secret you're hiding and feeling bad about, and by doing this you could make it into a far bigger thing than it originally was, if it really was just a drunken mistake.
Part of the reason I posted.
Mr_Wobble
I don't want to hurt her. I don't want to lose her.
If I keep it stored up i'll always feel sick at what i've done. I'll always feel like a complete and utter c*nt.
If I tell her i'll hurt her deeply and I WILL lose her.
I hate me.
Don't hate you.
Why are you so sure you'll lose her if you tell her?
Are you sure you can't get over the guilt? I'm sure you won't always feel this bad. Trust me, I've been there. Kind of.
I know that is how she will react. I do not want her to hate me.
If I tell her and she does take it ok she will never trust me again if we somehow stay together.
I think I can eventually get over the guilt, though the other thing that bugs me is that if I spend the rest of my life with her (and I want to) then I have scarred us. She might never know but can I ever forget.
I know that if I don't tell her I can make her very happy forever. That is why it is my preference.
Seriously though I have seen the light. Some bastards and bitches do things a whole lot worse than this and never tell their partners. My mistake is just a teardrop in the ocean of love. Its best it gets washed away and I concentrate on being the best partner I can be from now on.
Yeah, that's what I'd do. But if it happens again, methinks some serious soul searching is in order.
Good luck
It will get easier & you will put it behind you. I don't think there's much point in hurting her by telling her.
Then again, if it were me, I'd want to know. And I'd dump him for it. But I never followed those rules so I'm clearly just a hypocritical cow who's not really being much help.
I'll stop now.
I think, probably yes. But I'd take great pains to never be in a situation where it could happen again.
I am going to learn from this, and strive to make her very happy from this day forward.
But then if you do stay together forever, maybe it is.
Are you absolutely certain that snogging someone else isn't a sign that there's something wrong in the relationship?
We went away Valentines weekend to Rome and it was magical. We spent 2 great days together at the weekend just gone.
All I could think about was her.
The one thing that sticks in my mind while being bladdered and making the mistake in the club on sunday is that I almost whispered to the girl "I love you". Maybe I was missing her or confused!
Thanks Kinky I feel better now.
Sounds like it. Did this random woman look anything like your girl?
Glad I could be of help Sir